No contact or having a break, then slowly begginning contact?

[turokturok5]

I don't actually see how no contact works, since your giving the dumper what you want. I was told i was the nicest and sweetest guy she met and that was why she fell for me, but going no contact and actively avoiding her how is this possibly going to get her back, its just showing that i pretty much hate her and want nothing to do with her and this isn't the case, i want her back. Sure i was dumped for being too clingy and by hardly talking to her for a month shouldn't this have proven that i DON'T need her 24.7. She offered me friendship and i accepted, but then i deleted her off facebook and started to avoid her when i saw her. I've been NC for nearly 3 weeks and tomorrow it will be one month since BU.

 

Isn't it possible to contact them, send them a text, an email or something, just asking how they are and go from there. What if NC doesn't work on certain types of people, my ex is really shy and if she did miss me, if she did realise she was wrong i don't think she'd have it in her to contact me. Before we started dating the cues she gave me that she liked me, quote ; "i talked to you on facebook" thats all i had to think that she liked me too.

 

Is NC really the best way, i know its meant for self-healing and i dont want to beg my ex to take me back. But i felt terrible today when i saw her at uni and walked off listening to my ipod, she was walking behind me and then i decided to walk on the other side of the road, i thought it was the right thing to do at the time, but now i feel it just made me look pathetic, that i didn't give a rats about her. Maybe slowly going back into contact is better, how many people has NC actually worked for?