roman_pavluchenko Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Was boarding the bus going home from uni and i saw her in the line getting ready to jump on the bus i was on, i looked at her and she looked in my direction but im un-sure whether she saw me or not. I immidiently went to the back of the bus and didn't see her the whole trip. When i got off the middle door, she got off the front door and i plugged my earphones in and continued to text my friend and walk towards my car. Im pretty sure she was following me, but i just kept my head down, music blasting and continued texting. I looked back down the road to see if there was any cars and im pretty sure i saw her - walking with another guy (it may have been 1 of her brothers) and i crossed the road and didn't see her again. Did i make the right choice, i actively avoided her, im not sure if she knew i saw her or not, but will she think i've moved on, or will she despise me for ignoring her when i agreed on friendship, will it work in my favour?
Shatter3d Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 I dont think you should be ignoring her on purpose, she will see straight through that. If you see her, just give her a friendly nod and be on your merry way with no care in the world, trust me this will get to her more than avoiding/ignoring her. Avoiding or ignoring her will only show that you still have feelings for her. You want her to think the opposite, that the site of her does not bother you. Goodluck :)
Author roman_pavluchenko Posted March 1, 2011 Author Posted March 1, 2011 I dont think you should be ignoring her on purpose, she will see straight through that. If you see her, just give her a friendly nod and be on your merry way with no care in the world, trust me this will get to her more than avoiding/ignoring her. Avoiding or ignoring her will only show that you still have feelings for her. You want her to think the opposite, that the site of her does not bother you. Goodluck :) dam so i blew it
Shatter3d Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Nooooo dont be silly, you didnt blow it !! You will have plenty of other chances, I'm sure of it. Like I said, next time you bump into her, just treat her the same way as you would another acquaintance. Notice I said acquaintance not friend
Author roman_pavluchenko Posted March 1, 2011 Author Posted March 1, 2011 Nooooo dont be silly, you didnt blow it !! You will have plenty of other chances, I'm sure of it. Like I said, next time you bump into her, just treat her the same way as you would another acquaintance. Notice I said acquaintance not friend haha yeah, i realise i should've done that now. She may think i didnt even notice her though. I was walking in front of her with headphones in and i only looked back once to cross the road, i saw her, but not directly.
Shatter3d Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Let her think what she wants...seriously man dont over analyze things. Us dumpee's need to just chill the fck up
Author roman_pavluchenko Posted March 1, 2011 Author Posted March 1, 2011 yeah i know its stupid, when your in freaking no contact as soon as something slightly positive happens you get hope. Like she asked my two closest friends out to "talk" one of them is her best friends and one is my best friend, but im close with her best friend. Its odd though because she has never asked anyone out for coffee before and shes not even that close with my mate, kind of hoping shes going to talk about me, but ill probably be wrong
Shatter3d Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Nah, you're probably right, she is probably just trying to get some information about you. BUT, dont get hope about this please. It means nothing. Sometimes we just want to know if our ex has moved on and we will try to find out from friends (even if we dont want to get back together with you) So the best thing you can do now, is do nothing, just sit back and get on with your life. Unfortunately I have to do the same thing, I nearly caved into texting my ex, but 8 days ago he told me there is nothing left to talk about...so meh, what can I do but stick to NC and hope for the best, even if the best is me moving on and him not coming back.... Love is so beautiful but at the same time it can be very evil..
Author roman_pavluchenko Posted March 1, 2011 Author Posted March 1, 2011 yeah true, she may also be wandering why i deleted her off facebook too. Hopefully my friends don't tell her how happy i was when i thought that she asked my best mate out to "talk" to tell him that she liked him, would've had a reason for the break-up then
Shatter3d Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 For sure she would be wondering why you deleted her off facebook. I dont know your background, but if she dumped you, then good for you for deleting her. Facebook is for freinds, she aint your friend no more. What do you mean she likes you friend?
Author roman_pavluchenko Posted March 1, 2011 Author Posted March 1, 2011 yeah, i dont understand why she would just want to know how im doing though, if she did want to get back together i probably ruined it with the bus thing. Well originally she just asked my best mate out, but he was like woaaaah hang on a minute i dont like you in that way so she invited her best friend too so it wouldn't be awkward
Shatter3d Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Im guessing you guys are probably really young (maybe 18-20? no offence) Look, you didnt blow it with the bus thing, dont stress. Just be friendly and indifferent like the next time you see her and it will be fine. It it was real love, it will find its way back somehow. Just dont be the one to push it away. The best way not to push it away? DO NOTHING Peace xx
Author roman_pavluchenko Posted March 1, 2011 Author Posted March 1, 2011 mm close, im 18, shes 17 we're pretty much eachothers first partners though, im definately hers, but i had another girlfriend who i dont really count as a girlfriend, more as a friend with benefits. Yeah true, i just feel kind of bad though for ignoring her when she cried and offered me friendship when she broke up with me, hopefully she didn't see me see her, so she'll think i was just listening to my ipod and minding my own business!
aloneinseattle Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 (edited) Was boarding the bus going home from uni and i saw her in the line getting ready to jump on the bus i was on, i looked at her and she looked in my direction but im un-sure whether she saw me or not. I immidiently went to the back of the bus and didn't see her the whole trip. When i got off the middle door, she got off the front door and i plugged my earphones in and continued to text my friend and walk towards my car. Im pretty sure she was following me, but i just kept my head down, music blasting and continued texting. I looked back down the road to see if there was any cars and im pretty sure i saw her - walking with another guy (it may have been 1 of her brothers) and i crossed the road and didn't see her again. Did i make the right choice, i actively avoided her, im not sure if she knew i saw her or not, but will she think i've moved on, or will she despise me for ignoring her when i agreed on friendship, will it work in my favour? Roman what are your motives? To get back with her or stay away from her? I think you did nothing wrong by avoiding her because your only protecting yourself so you did the right thing...And if you agreed to stay friends with her it should be at your discretion, obviously you still have feelings for her, so right now is NOT the right time to be friends. I don't know who broke up with who but, from the sounds of it she broke up with you. So why worry what she thinks now? It's time to stop worrying about her and START worrying about you. Maintain NC and do not use a third party to comunicate. Stop all contact until you feel like your finally over her, then you can think about being friends on a non romantic level. If it did not work the first time it for sure not work the second or third, because you always have all that history behind you that is always going to be against you. So she can always remember and say well in this situation you did this. This hope is what gets us deeper and deeper into sorrow and sadness. So do yourself a favor and a long term heartache just let her go move on. Edited March 1, 2011 by aloneinseattle
Author roman_pavluchenko Posted March 1, 2011 Author Posted March 1, 2011 yeah she broke up with me for being too clingy. My motives are to get her back, because i know not to be clingy, i know the best thing for me to do would be to let go but i just cant...it was a 2 month relationship, its been a month since we broke up and i cant stop thinking about her
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