thompscs Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Started dating my ex girlfriend in Feb. 2008 and while we were together we were off and on mainly due to simple disagreements and differences. Most of them revolved around she thought I was drinking too much and wouldn't go to church with her. So I broke up with her in July 2009 and for some reason haven't been able to get her out of my mind since. On a physical chemistry we were really good, emotionally was decent but spiritually I was not on the same level as her. So for the last two years, I've tried to maintain contact with her but have only gotten a response from her every now and then. She goes back and forth from saying she never wants to talk again and that she is seeing somebody to then telling me thank you and that I am sweet when I send her flowers for her birthday. In the meantime the last two years I have been trying to date other people and change some of my bad habits and she is aware of this but she recently told me that she has been dating someone for 7 months and that she couldn't be my friend and that we couldn't try anymore and that she had moved on. But here's my question. She keeps going back and forth saying she don't want nothing to with me and then when I send her a nice gift for her birthday or special occasion she reaches out and reestablishes contact. So my question is should I just move on and wait for her to contact me or are there still feelings there and she is just too afraid I will hurt her again. I did explain to her in a letter that I think she is the one and that is why I have been trying to change. Also it should be noted that her first husband treated her terribly and abused her and she knows that I know about all this that happened to her. I am confused as to what to do. I love her but I also respect the fact she has moved on. So it's tough. Should I give it a year or 2 and then talk to her again if I ain't found nothing better.
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