seanmathews3 Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 ill try to sum the story up quick.. So girlfriend and i broke up a week ago, and we have talked about the past (what went wrong and how we can move on) quite a few times and last night was supposed to be the last time we bring it up because i didnt wanna keep bringing it up kuz then it would just hold us in the past. We are basically doing NC until we are ready to either have something more or work towards something more... kuz i love this girl and just friends will be too painful. my question is.. in my counseling class at school were talking about love and relationships and he was saying how sometimes we fail to show love and dont appreciate the other person as much as we should.. she did a lot for me as far as gifts, being there for me, and just being an amazing girlfriend.. i had an idea of sending her a message on facebook telling her.. thank you and i appreciate everything she did for me and that it all meant a lot.. stuff like that.. and i also wanted to throw a reminder in there like "if you decide you want something more or want to work towards something more,you know im just a phone call away and we'll talk" then proceed with NC or should i leave that last part out kuz we've talked about it before and i dont wanna keep bringing it up, but i havent really said it like that.. so thats a small reason why i want to
hopeful4someday Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 I just made a decision like that -- not exactly "like that", but I decided that maybe he didn't know how I really felt and that I really loved him and cared for him, so I should tell him. Didn't quite go as planned. Ended up hurting me a lot more than I would have thought. On the other hand, I was glad I got to say it. So I think, if you want to tell her, do it for yourself. If you want to make sure she knows how you felt, then say so. I wouldn't leave the door open for contact -- she knows she can talk to you if she wants, and probably the best thing for you is to just move on. If you send her something that says the door is open, you're always going to be waiting at the door, you know? And that's not where you should be right now.
Saphira Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 you can put it all in there. maybe it will get her thinking of new ways. and you didnt tell her to call you immediately, you said she can always call you when she is ready. so if she isnt ready then she will not call. i think it would be nice to send that to her. It is up to you though. but my personal oppinion is that it sounds nice, and i dont think it can hurt anything.
Author seanmathews3 Posted March 1, 2011 Author Posted March 1, 2011 Well she knows how i feel and how i love her and obviously want things to work out in the future.. but i havent really took the time to thank her for the relationship and all she's done. so i look at it as it cant hurt... what is she gonna get mad or like me less for thanking her? lol my only thing is putting that last part in, but i think i will kuz im not trying to make her decide, and the key word i want to show her is "we'll talk" meaning im not gonna just jump back into things just kuz she wants to and that if she is ever ready it doesnt mean i am.
Saphira Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 then it sounds like you have it all figured out. i wish you the best of luck xD
Saphira Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Let us know how she responds, if she does! yes do keep us informed xD
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