Timbo22 Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Ill try to sum this up as brief as possible... I dated a girl for 3 1/2 years. We did everything together, We had it so good I feel now that we both took things for granted. Anyway she just broke up with a month ago, Her school is really tough and shes trying to get into med school. She told me she couldn't handle it right now and she needs a break. I pleaded and begged for her to stop this nonsense, I felt like I was in a bad dream. She wanted to marry me, She wanted me to depend on her. She would always talk about the future...I tried and tried for about 2 weeks to talk some sense in her. But I know now I made things 10x worse. 1st week-I came over the next day and grabbed some of my stuff, I begged and pleaded for her back....she just cried and gave me a kiss that made me stand still again.I sent her letters and tried calling her on the phone...She said she misses me and maybe in the future she will comeback 2nd week-I went out partying with some friends, these girls took my phone drunk dialed her bf. Sure enough next day she calls me up asking what did i do, what were you doing with girls. I never want to talk to you again. I simply said, I was out with my friends trying to get my mind off of you. she cried and asked if i did anything and i said no of course not. 3rd week- We planned to meet up and talk. She said she didnt love me anymore and it was over...It was the biggest dagger Ive ever felt. I didnt know what to say,I asked if she was seeing someone else and she said no of course not...Her best friend is one of my good friends and she says she isnt either... I just figured shes super stressed with school....but i didnt do anything to hold her back. 4th-week- It is the end of the 4th week now, I still cant stop thinking about her. Ive been out with friends alot, and Ive been hit on, aproached, everything. I dont want anyone else. I'm really about to break...I sent her a note telling her i was sorry for making the break-up worse and not respecting that she needed time and space...I also said i hope it didnt affect your school. She replied right away and said thank-you and it was a really nice thing to say. She then added on that school has been the worst it has ever been and then asked how I have been.... I know I should go NC, but she was a best friend we both felt like we had nothing anyone could touch...We planned I love this girl, I feel like I messed up big time. I was just so shocked...
Trovador Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 That guilt trip won't get you anywhere... most times it's not us messing up, it's people wanting to be alone, needing space, taking a step back to analyze their lives or just don't feeling anything for you anymore... the best you can do now is let her go... We all have been there, we all know what it is to see and hear and feel the other party quitting on us... it hurts, but actually, who or what are we to not be dumped a couple of times in our lives? We are just human beings in need of someone special... this time it wasn't possible so what? Are we going to die just because of that? I don't know about you, but right now I am doing the best I can to survive this with dignity and spirit... The sun will rise tomorrow... what about you?
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