shiftedblue Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 I've been seeing this guy for over two months; relationship seems to be moving a little quickly both emotionally & physically. Every once in a while my guy will say, jokingly, "who are you?" So hahaha the first fifteen times...but now, it's stupid and annoying, and kind of mean. Am I taking this too seriously?
Mrlonelyone Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Tell him it isn't funny anymore. If he does not stop then sure dump him. If you act like it's still funny how is he supposed to know otherwise?
AverageJoe Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 If it bothers you that much to the point of actually asking the question and contemplating leaving. Why are you even still involved? Leave.
Author shiftedblue Posted March 1, 2011 Author Posted March 1, 2011 Context...usually after I say something sweet. We text playfully back and forth... sometimes the overdone "your face" comes up. So before I sent, in response to overdone "your face," ... "your face is cute!" so he replied..."who are you again?" If this wasn't the umpteent time he's said that it might not annoy me so much. I like him a lot otherwise. But I always wonder if there's a little truth in joking...like i.e. I am no one to him. IDK maybe I'm being oversensitive.
commadore Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 perhaps he dosent know what to say, i know when im in the first few days dealing with a girl i somtimes say somthing stupid, not more then once and not after 2 months, you should be talking like a couple, not like a week fling
SmileFace Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Context...usually after I say something sweet. We text playfully back and forth... sometimes the overdone "your face" comes up. So before I sent, in response to overdone "your face," ... "your face is cute!" so he replied..."who are you again?" If this wasn't the umpteent time he's said that it might not annoy me so much. I like him a lot otherwise. But I always wonder if there's a little truth in joking...like i.e. I am no one to him. IDK maybe I'm being oversensitive. I think he is just being silly. Mention it to him that you aren't comfortable with the joke. Then you should know where to go from there. :-)
Nexus One Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 People should know a joke isn't funny (anymore) when after the punchline: - It's so quiet you can hear the crickets outside. ( http://bit.ly/gTVC6u ) - The only sound you hear is that of someone coughing. - There's no reaction except of some tumble weed bush rolling by like in those old western movies and the wind making that "whoooOoosh* sound. - Some musician has to hit the drums to emphasize your punchline, like with Jay Leno. - You don't hear anything except a raven or crow in the distance. *kraAa kraAa*
D-Lish Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 I agree with SF, it sounds like he's just trying to be silly. Maybe he's uncomfortable with taking compliments, or he's just not that great at playful banter. It's either that or he's going out of his way to make you feel insecure. That's something you should be able to decipher based on your interaction thus far. If everything is going well, he's treating you nicely, wanting to spend time with you- then I doubt there is any malice behind his sarcasm. If it annoys you, just tell him. Don't make it into a confrontation, don't make him feel bad over it- just tell him. If this is the only thing he's doing that annoys you, you probably are being oversensitive.
Andy_K Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Next time he does it, smile and playfully tell him that next time he says it you'll punch him in the nuts. Then next time he says it, punch him in the nuts. He'll learn quick enough
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