kaygato Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 I know that I don't want to be back with my ex right now...I know it would be a horrible idea for both of us. I also know I'm not in love with him anymore, and I'm not sure I ever was. Anyway, I suffer from anxiety, mild depression, and get intrusive thought patterns. So my problem is that I can't get my ex out of my mind at all. It's annoying and getting me really down, because he seems to have moved on mostly and is just fine and well...I'm not. I feel like I have a codependent personality, and I also have low self-esteem. I've been seeing a therapist lately but have yet to really see improvement. I think I'm trapped in my mind all too often and it's like a broken record. I can never just go with the flow. A few years ago I had a huge crush/obsession on an aquaintance that lasted for 3 and a half years, and I think actually ended up making me feel depressed after the initial "infatuation stage" of the crush was over. I do love my ex, but I never fell in love with him. I'm worried that I somehow have put guards up so that I can't feel emotions like that anymore. Sorry for the extremely negative bent to this post. I know I need to think a lot more positively. Anyway...my main question is does anyone know any good psychological tricks to stop thinking/worrying about your ex so much? The thinking is just annoying me and making me feel bad/sad at this point. I'm trying my best to stop dwelling over my ex/the breakup but I could really use some help.
SpaceCase Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 I feel like for a few weeks, I was unable to think of anything *but my ex. It was horrible, and affected my sleep, and general attitude. What I realized is that whenever I thought of my ex, if I told myself "i want to think of something different" and then picked any random thing, it helped. If I started to have a negative thought toward them, I re-routed it to "what will be, will be" and left it in the hands of the universe. Additionally, as I learned a new instrument, read fantastic classics, watched documentaries, and spent time in general bettering myself, I felt better. To the point of your emotional walls, that will only come when you feel 100% whole and can safely begin to trust someone. But it definitely starts with onesself. Good luck! Remember that while your ex may or may not be feeling better, it's much more important that you take this time to make yourself feel better.
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