what2donoww Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 So, I have been seeing this guy for over a year now. (exclusively) He works out of town and has been gone for 3 months now. He comes home about 1 time a month and he flew me out there last weekend. While he is gone,, he contacts me maybe once every other day via text. He maybe calls once a week. Before he would go days with no contact and he would take forever to reply to me...like hours or not at all. This kinda annoyed me, so I told him this. That's when he said he would call more and text. At first he did. Then now it's back to not very often. All he ever says in his texts is him: "hey baby" me: "hey, hows it goin?" him "good, you" me: not bad, blah blah" him: "I miss you, n lov you lots" me: I miss you too and love you, cant wait to see you" This is how it goes every time. When he calls, we talk for maybe 5 minutes, with me making all the efforts to make the convo flow, then it feels like he is only calling because I told him it bothered me. When we are together, it is great! I can feel the love and have a great time with him. When we are not together, which is majority of the time, it's like I am single and am more lonely than when I am actually single. Well anyway, after last weekend. while I was out there, we got on the topic of my financial situation. I screwed it up pretty bad in the last year, and I have no real good reason for it. He is pretty upset with me and made it known, sort of. When were drinking, he let me know that this bothered him sooo much. and he wanted me to get my act together, etc... I said I am working on it, which I am. Well come the 2nd day I was there, he was kind of stand offish and not real chatty. I was feeling uncomfortable and really just wanted to go home, which I couldn't because my flight wasn't until yesterday, so I had a good of a time as I could. Then yesterday was even worse. Abything I said about anything, he had a nasty remark to come back with, so I just quick talking. He walked me to my gate at the airport and waited with me until I boarded. I just wanted him to leave. Well, I tried to talk to him. I asked him if he was mad at me. He actually said "no, what for?". So I had to say why and he said yes, he didn't like that I was irresponsible and that seemed to not care about anything. I said well, actually I do. But, if he feels that strongly about it, maybe we should put my phone in my name and break up. He didn't want to do that. At first he said OK. then he said that I need to prove to him and I said he needs to be nicer to me etc...it really wasn't a productive conversation and I felt like crying the entire day. It sucked! I do feel like I love him, and have thought he was "the one". I am getting sick n tired of the absolute no communication on either end. I try and it's like he just doesn't want to follow through with anything, so I back off and the vicious cycle starts all over again. I met him online 18 months ago. I can see why he was single, and the stories he has told me. And to be honest, I know I will be sad if I end it but will wonder what would/could have been, but I think that because of the lack of contact in my life from him, it might not be so different. He did make a comment on friday that we could be fwb. I said really? and he said why not? and I am not sure what was said about it after that, but the next day he said I broke up with him and kept saying that I did. Then he said I was his GF at the airport and that we were together in an off handed way. (he also made the comment at one point in the weekend that his room mate wanted him to put their house in his name for when he gets married next year, not sure why he said that, because I asked him what he said and he said he didn't say anything) I guess I am venting and puting it here makes me realize that he is an A** and I should probably move on. UFF! I told myself I wouldn't go through this again, and here I am, at 30 single. Why oh WHY?? Should I just end it? or wait and give it a little bit more time, like a couple days. I don't think he is even thinking about it, and if he is, it isn;t showing. Does it seem to be a lot cause? Any advice on how to handle his situation? Thanks
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