califsb Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Back ground: Orginally i was the one who actually had told her i need to get off the rollercoaster a month ago.. so techincally she did not break up with me but she kept saying she does not want a R and but she also did not have to guts to let me go. So I took a week off and then told her I needed to move on and stop enabling her from beign "stuck". We get along great and are like best freinds and there was much romance but she started to get hold and cold and threw me off. she felt she was not ready for a full R and needed to find herslef before she could be a "we". So i took the bull and told her we needed a time out or a break. but it really is a break up. I broke NC after 3 weeks last week and met her for 2 hours in person. very good talk but I lost my power and she wants to be friends and I agreed like a fool. she contacted me today on FB via email. " Hey there! Hope things are going well and moving along with the job interviews. Just wanted to see if you wanted to get together Wed night to grab a drink and catch up?"" She wants to be friends cause she kept saying i dont want this "right now".. and she wants to keep her options open and wants to hang out wtih me and my huge circule of friends... all positive stuff for her to stay "friends" with me. She knows i am crazy about her.. One school of thought is not to jump at her request to hang out right away and say I am busy and let her puruse me.. more.. If she comes back she has to come back ready for a full R and a part of me knows I have to play tough love and NC>. Please help. I know we have something and she knows to know my value.. everyone says I did the right thing and so proud I had the guts to call her out and not fall into her selfish wanting to be with me on her terms.. Please please help..
Author califsb Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 "Cant wedneday. " short and to the point.. Ladies.. thoughts??
Author califsb Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 I wrote her back.. : Hey ya. Can't got allot going on right now.
what2donoww Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 I say play hard to get. Never be ready to say how high when they say jump. Also, you really should be busy on the days she asks you to hang out. Sounds like she wants you around until something better comes along. But I could be wrong... Good luck.
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