Mick1963 Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 The day after my affair with the OW was discovered in December, I called her and said our affair was done and over. She contacted me again in January and again I emphasized to her the affair was over. She said she understood and we wished each other the best of luck as we tried to repair our lives and marriages. It's now the last day of February, and a friend has encouraged me to send a NC letter to the OW. I wish I had known about this earlier, I would have done it. I told my wife the affair is long over and I'm doing my best to save our marriage. Should I write an NC letter even after the time has passed? My wife may think the OW and I were still communicating if I suddenly decide to write the letter.
timchambo Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 if you guys have established the affair is over I would leave it at that. If she contacts you again then I would let her know very firmly that you cannot communicate anymore.
depplover_1980 Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 I find it very bizarre someone should suggest such a thing. You don't write someone a letter after weeks of not contacting them to inform them you will be doing no contact. Out of respect for your wife you should not give the OW's feelings any consideration, sorry.
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