sabrina12 Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 So my boyfriend broke up with me 6 days ago. He says it was because of distance, his social life was effected, his friends thought he was going mad cos they've never met me, he thinks there might be family issues... He bought up a lot of excuses, but when we spoke about it, it narrowed down to two things. One, the distance was the big deal. It had been 4/5 months since we last met. We tried to arrange to meet numerous times but one of us could never make it. He said he had lost the enthusiasm to carry on with this. He said he still loves me and cares for me deeply, and it would kill him to not have contact with me, but he thinks we should be friends and move on. Yet he said that he wouldn't dismiss a chance for us to work in the future if I move to London (which I've been planning to for about 2 months). What I don't understand is that he's saying he loves me, wants us to work again at some point, but then that he wants us both to move on but still be friends. We've still been speaking, and I said i'll be friends, and just like him keep the prospect of us developing a relationship again. He said when I move to London he will 100% meet up and hang out with me. I'm confused! Two, his social life is effected. He said he wants to speak to other girls without having me on the back of his mind, which to me says that he's bored of me, and wants to meet others. I see that he has another girl he's close to. I've noticed this since last month. She flirts with him a lot, is good looking, confident, and they hang out a lot too. After we split I did say that he and the girl seem good for each other, she seems much like his type, all he could say that they're friends. I can see something else developing. I see mine and his relationship at the beginning happening all over again with them two, except he gets to see her more than he saw me (they work together too). Maybe I'm paranoid, or maybe I'm right, but I do see her as a threat. He's been enjoying the last two days, "had some great and fun times the last two days" as he said on twitter, and I'm sure he was with her. He seems like he's moving on, yet he's holding on to me too? We've still been texting and messaging each other, so we're in contact. He's mentioned things from the past, like little sayings and jokes we've had, he even changes topic to carry on the conversation between up after I say something random... Does that show that he's still interested? Last night I ended our texts by saying I'm going out and that we'll speak later. Soon after that he updated his twitter saying that he's "mustered the strength to go to the Salsa Bar" (He's ill). Is he doing that to make himself feel better cos he thinks I'm dealing with it?? Or is it cos he thinks I'm dealing with it that he's moving on too. He's updating his twitter a lot, mentioning that he's tired and going to bed, that he's enjoyed himself, etc. Is that so I can read it? I'm getting so many mixed signals but I'm keeping cool (well, to him I seem like I am, but I'm hurting! ). Do I have a chance of getting back with him? We have arranged to see each other at some point just to catch up, chill out and "go with the flow", is that a good idea? I know i'll remain calm when I see him. I want to see how he acts though. Any advice to get him back please and also whether you think there's a chance. I know it's soon, I'm not expecting him back to me for a few months, but I want to know whether there is a chance! One more thing! He didn't text me all day today after going out with the other girl last night and possibly this morning. Is that out of guilt? Or maybe he was just busy with her... I don't know By the way, he's NOT sleeping with her. He's living the life that he said he wanted to live with me (he told me after splitting up about all the things he wants to do with me but can't cos i'm too far). I've wanted to move to London before I even met him (2 years ago, but we've been a couple for 10 months). I generally LOVE London, I want to work there anyway, in the fashion side of things Another thing he told me was that "my heart may explode for you when I see you, who knows?" and that he wont change his mind about the long distance relationship even if he's smitten by me again when he sees me next, he can only fully be confident about it once i'm in London. He tells me that he wants me to try and move on, yet he doesn't want to know if I ever do. And his friend was flirting with me on facebook the other night, he found out and went mad. Deleted his friend and got extremely jealous. I've now deleted him off facebook, unfollowed him on twitter. He knows about it cos I told him I want some space and he was upset about it, but said he'd support me. Only thing is I want him to block me on twitter so I can't access his page and he says he doesn't have the heart to do that. Eugh! I need him to do it, I've avoided checking it for 2 days until now. and it's a load of posts to his new interest, Camila (spanish girl). He also said he'll try and post less on there to help me. But this morning I text him saying i'm moving on and I agree with the break up, said we should forgive and forget and that I'm fine. I think he's taken it seriously, cos he's posting lots to Camila and announcing how he's excited to hang out with her later today. I don't understand, he says if I ever go to London he wants to hang out for drinks and stuff and thinks we may have a chance, but then he's progressing with her. I feel as if she's being played as a bit of a rebound. He's doing the things we did together and the things we planned to do, but with her. Really feel replaced. Another thing is that if they do go further, she would hate it if he met up with me, "the ex". I don't understand! I'm acting so strong for him right now. The only weakness I showed was asking him to block me on twitter again, after all he did say he'll support me. How do you all think my progress is going? I'm NOT hanging on to him, just to clarify. I will meet other people, and I will let him hang about, not giving myself up so easily once I'm in London. The new girl reminds me a lot of myself... Just shows he's not really moving on all that much. Thank you (and sorry it's so long!) From a Sad heartbroken girl
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