commadore Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 My girlfriend and i have been dating for around a month, things started out great, everything was pretty spontainous, like for valintines day i made her a candle lit dinner and things like that, lately it seems like shes getting board, and i really like her so i really want to keepthis going. Im not too sure if im smuthering her but im tryimg not to. Any advice would be great, were a young couple too if that means anything ( im 19 shes 17)
purplepanda Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Hmmmm you're gonna have to give me some more details if you want a good answer. What are you trying to do to keep her interest? Taking her out every night? Hanging out constantly? Does she have time for friends, etc?
blackmagik Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 What makes you think you could be smothering her? You mentioned that you hope you aren't but what kinds of things are you doing?
Author commadore Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 yeah we hangout like 3-4 days a week and usually all weekend, i didnt really notice it untill now, and im usually the one to be like wanna hangout, it just dosent seem as "sparky" or fun as the begining was. i just dont want to smurther the flame but i feel like im starting to, i was thinkiong mabye hold off on the messeges and give her some days, and yeah i feel like im taking her from her friends a little, i think you might be right about that...
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Saphira Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 im 19, just basic info. but i think maybe you should talk to her. if it were me i would want you to bring up your concerns with me. not in a historical way, but just ask her if anything is wrong. and when she asks why you asked just explain your feelings. that you feel she has been a bit distant and not that into it anymore. It is always best to talk to her about it because. she is the one becoming "bored" she she will be the one to tell you why. good luck
Author commadore Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 i can see what you mean, but by doing that i feel like i will appear needy. which i dont want. and which i think would kill it?
xpaperxcutx Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 yeah we hangout like 3-4 days a week and usually all weekend, i didnt really notice it untill now, and im usually the one to be like wanna hangout, it just dosent seem as "sparky" or fun as the begining was. i just dont want to smurther the flame but i feel like im starting to, i was thinkiong mabye hold off on the messeges and give her some days, and yeah i feel like im taking her from her friends a little, i think you might be right about that... Give her space. You guys are too attached at the hips and it's going to suffocate her.
Author commadore Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 Give her space. You guys are too attached at the hips and it's going to suffocate her. thats what i was thinking
Saphira Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 yes that should work too. i think i mentally blocked all the time you spend together. i think people do need a little distance. spend some time with the buddies, and have her do the same, and you can even have big group dates with all your friends together so its not so much "just us time" if that will work to. that way you can spend time together but also be hanging out with others. idk just a thought
Author commadore Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 i hate admitting my insecurities, but out of my group of friends i have the least domanance which i know women dont find attractive, mabye im jumping to conclusions but i feel like if she could be with my other friends she would...., dont get me wrong, she dosent have a slutty history at all. im her second person shes slept with. she shows me alot of compassion and what not but when all of us hangout i feel invisible. also i hate going to parties with her, because she gets hit on . and i hate saying this but im pretty skinny and not a great fighter....
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