Never been on a break, What do i do?

[hockeychick89]

My boyfriend for almost 2 years and i are now on a break. He is done with school in May and has a couple hard and busy months ahead of him. He told me he needs time to concentrate on school and looking for a job for after he graduates. We decided we would do our own thing but we would still be together. I am new to the whole "break" or "taking it easy" relationship. I am having a hard time going from talking every day and seeing each other almost every day to nothing. I am going to try my best to give him his space so that he can do what he needs to do. I need some advice on what to do..

 

-How often should i try and talk to him? We decided to take a break 2 days ago and i haven't seen or heard from him since. I have kept myself from texting and calling him and haven't heard anything from him but it is going to start driving me nuts!

 

-Should i wait for him to make a move? My friends are telling me to wait and hear from him. To not call or text him since this whole thing was his idea..

 

-What do i do if i haven't heard from him after 4-5 days? Should i be worried? Should that tell me that he probably doesn't want me in his future?

 

-If i do decide to call him, will that make me look clingy? What will he think? What do i say?

 

-We will be dating on two years in a week. Next time i talk to him should i bring it up and ask him if he wants to get together for it? Or should we just not celebrate it since we are on a break?

[timchambo]

Sorry to hear this hockeychic. Do not plan on celebrating 2 years or even getting together. Right now there is no relationship. I know it's hard. Your friends are right if he asked for space give him it. Maybe reaching out and asking him his expectations (since it sounds like they have not been defined) and getting a but of closure.

 

I know ts not what you wantto hear but you need to look at this as a breakup. It's over right now. If you can make it a couple weeks without talking or contact at all it will get better I promise. I am going through this too. And if you really want to commit to not contacting him, just post in these forums when you feel weak. Best of luck girl.