Chicagocutie Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 (edited) The Ex broke up with me 3 months ago after about 3 months of dating. We were never "official" and it wasn't very serious and by the time he called it off I was quite ready to say good-bye. Nevertheless, it still stung a little and it's taken me longer to get completely, 100% over it than I thought it would. But I'm dating other people and working on it. We're part of the same social circle, have many mutual friends, and go to many of the same events. Since we are both 30, and reasonably mature, I hoped we would be able to remain cordial. Friday, we both went to the same event. I went to meet a female friend. When I arrived, they were speaking. Perhaps flirting. When the event started, she asked me to sit next to her. Guess who else she wanted to sit next to? The ex. So we sat on either side of her. (My friend knew we dated - she saw us on a date together and we've spoken about my feelings about the break-up.) Throughout the event, my ex flirted with her. Talking. Laughing. Touching. "Helping" her follow along with the program. (It was a religious service.) At one point, they were sharing a prayerbook. She was laughing and enjoying it and encouraging his attention. I kept my face completely calm, except for the occasional amused smile. It didn't hurt in a broken-heart way to see him hitting on someone else - In fact, I was reminded of why I wanted to break up with him in the first place and I was glad he wasn't touching or speaking to me. However, I was enraged. I felt that this was incredibly rude - I, his ex, was 2 feet away! Even though we're not dating, I feel like I'm due a tiny bit of consideration as a human being with feelings. I'm assuming the best - that he wasn't deliberately flirting with her at that time to make me upset. I'm hoping that he just didn't care at all that I was there. As for her, I assumed she hadn't remembered that he was the guy I dated. However, when the event was over, and I was teasing her that it looked like she already had a seat partner for the dessert reception, she said she would never go out with him out of consideration for me. Yet, she had been encouraging his flirting the whole time. Am I wrong to be upset about this? I couldn't care less if they flirt or date, but I think it's wrong to do it literally right in front of me. Is it too much to expect adults to wait until I'm 5 feet away and facing another direction? Thoughts? Edited February 28, 2011 by Chicagocutie
timchambo Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 I would re-evaluate that friendship you have with her. Definitely not cool.
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