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Just joking around? Or is this a red flag?


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I first want to give you some background info so you'll better understand why I'm concerned.

 

I had a boyfriend who was very insecure about himself and always worried that I was going to cheat on him. He always needed to know where I was going, who I was going to be with, etc. One of the things he would do is "joke" about "my other boyfriends." For example, if he saw me hanging up the phone, he would ask, "Who was that? Your other boyfriend?" He would say it in a joking way but he did this repeatedly and combined with other things, his insecurity would reek.

 

I'm currently with a new guy for a few months now, and he's starting to do the jokes about other boyfriends. But he isn't doing the other things that my ex did. He really doesn't strike me as being insecure but these jokes are beginning to make me wonder. He doesn't say them all the time, but I'm so paranoid from my ex.

 

So are these kind of jokes normal? Is it not a red flag if he's not acting insecure in other ways? Or should I be careful?

 

Thanks.

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I think it's normal, more or less. I've made jokes like that to women I'm seeing. It doesn't have to mean anything, just a fun way of teasing.

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Yeah the jokes are normal. Especially in the beginning. I have definitely joked about this myself...and been joked with.

 

Nothing to worry about....but I can totally understand that you are sensitive to this issue.

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