Fixyou Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 It all started when my friend said that I didn't like him. I confronted him the next asking him why he would say something like that and he said he was just joking. I told him all these reasons I liked him, only for him to be, "Don't worry, I was just teasing." I was a little offended he would be so careless with his words and my feelings towards him and not return the good tidings and I still don't know why he would say something like that. He then missed my birthday, which lead to another argument. We then made up over dinner even though he seemed funny at the very beginning -- a little reserve. He asked me a funny question of "Have you been out of town?" which was silly because he was out of town, not me. However, I did try to give him some space. After making up, it took him a few more hours for him to make me upset again over a silly misunderstanding where he was being careless and thoughtless. He's such a great person I can't believe we're fighting over stupid stuff, but don't know what to do to make it stop or to make it better. Plus, he's going to be moving to the other side of the country so don't want for him to leave when we're not doing well. What do I do?
ChristineB Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Fixyou, seems like you're being too offensive too easily... I do that with my friends all the time too, I told them "obviously you hate me, blah blah blah" and they just laugh and said, "yes I do!" and we both laugh. You need to loosen up a bit, you're worry too much over too many things. I guess it's because you're under the stress that you will be part from him soon? But really, if you consider him your friend, you should be able to trust he means no harm when he says something that may appear to be hurtful. Maybe someday you can tell him about "X day you tell me something and I thought it was blah blah blah, ect." but for now, you should enjoy every moment with your friend because you don't have much time anymore.
Author Fixyou Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 Thanks Christine!! I'll admit I could be a little sensitive since, no offense, I didn't see how he could have joked about something like that or if there was more to it since it came out of absolute nowhere. But good to know other people do tease about things like that and perhaps I just need to chill. Good chance I'll see him tonight at a group thing, so I guess I'll need to do my best on just enjoying. Thanks again.
ChristineB Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Good luck! Have fun tonight and keep us update!
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