maria gostrey Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 i went through all of high school and college without finding a boyfriend....now i'm 23 years old and a fresh college grad thrust out into the real world. i don't see any romantic prospects right now...i'm unemployed, have moved back home and don't even have a social life...have i missed my chance at love by not pairing up with someone during my high school and college years? am i too old to find a boyfriend now? this is a pic of me if its relevant to your responses.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 I looked at the picture it's nice but not really relevant. If it's any consolation I am 30 more than half of the people I know who paired off in HS and college are divorced or miserable and married. It's not too late to find love at 23 not at all. You are still very very young.
TouchedByViolet Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 OMG, you are HOT :love: What are you looking for in a man?
Cracker Jack Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 You're far from being too old. Unfortunately, I've been having issues in finding love, too, and I'm the same age--but please don't give up. You haven't missed your chance; not everyone experiences love in high school and college. You look nice. Your looks aren't the issue.
january2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 You're in your early 20s. The world is your oyster. The saying that, "youth is wasted on the young," is very apt here. I suggest increasing your social circle: join volunteer groups, take adult education classes, dance classes, join meetup groups or start one of your own, etc. Put yourself out there. Make new friends who could be potential lovers. Whatever age you are now, you'll never be this young again. So make the most of it. Just do it.
Author maria gostrey Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 OMG, you are HOT :love: What are you looking for in a man? thank you. i am looking for a classy guy with a good head on his shoulders. someone with a good heart and a worldly eye, someone who has career ambitions and doesn't bum around playing beer pong and getting drunk. someone with vision, and heart and passion for life.
paleblue Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 lol @beer pong. no you are not too old. dont worry about it. people meet at all different ages. the only thing i am thinking is when you do start meeting guys, will your lack of dating experience make you fall hard for some jerk that really isnt any good for you. something to think about. i guess id definately consider doing a little shopping first before settling on the right dress. ha.
TouchedByViolet Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 thank you. i am looking for a classy guy with a good head on his shoulders. someone with a good heart and a worldly eye, someone who has career ambitions and doesn't bum around playing beer pong and getting drunk. someone with vision, and heart and passion for life. Sounds like you have a good standard for men, and need someone more mature than most of the men you find yourself socializing with. I think January gave good advice about putting yourself out there so their will be more potential of meeting someone for a relationship. I'm 23 and have had limited romantic relations so far in my life. Don't give up.
Author maria gostrey Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 Sounds like you have a good standard for men, and need someone more mature than most of the men you find yourself socializing with. I think January gave good advice about putting yourself out there so their will be more potential of meeting someone for a relationship. I'm 23 and have had limited romantic relations so far in my life. Don't give up. but you know, i don't know how to "put myself out there"? currently i'm doing a part time internship at a women's rights ngo which i just started. its in washington, d.c and there are lots of fun girls and women but no boys. i also intern have a marketing and sales internship at this luxury transportation company where the guys are all FOBS and uncultured and creepy. not exactly a good place to come across quality men...:\
Disillusioned Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 What are you nuts? You should be out there, leading men on a wild goose chase and any other games you can think of.
TouchedByViolet Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 (edited) but you know, i don't know how to "put myself out there"? currently i'm doing a part time internship at a women's rights ngo which i just started. its in washington, d.c and there are lots of fun girls and women but no boys. i also intern have a marketing and sales internship at this luxury transportation company where the guys are all FOBS and uncultured and creepy. not exactly a good place to come across quality men...:\ hmm.... the internships are good opportunities, sounds like you got unlucky in how it all panned out. One guaranteed way women like yourself can meet a diverse group of men is by joining a co-ed sports team/activity of any kind. Rock climbing, skydiving, tennis, running, cycling, kick ball, basketball, etc. Whatever you like. I'm a rock climber and would love to meet a girl who shares the interest. Edited February 28, 2011 by TouchedByViolet
Nexus One Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 (edited) am i too old to find a boyfriend now? No, but if you're serious about finding a boyfriend, then make sure you're on the lookout for him at all times. Finding a quality boyfriend does make it harder and I sympathize with you in that respect. Women in the 20-30 age range are most sought after by men. That doesn't mean you can't find a boyfriend when you're older than 30, but it might become increasingly difficult. Use your prime years well to wheel in a quality boyfriend. Judging from your photo you should be able to get a boyfriend and judging from your replies you have a level of intelligence that can attract quality boyfriends. Edited February 28, 2011 by Nexus One
Woggle Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 You are only 23 and quite attractive so you should have no problem at all finding somebody. Just get out there and it should be no problem.
Nexus One Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 but you know, i don't know how to "put myself out there"? To let a guy know you like him, most often all you need to do is look at him when there's no reason to and smile and make sure he notices, do it more than once if necessary. Some will get the hint and approach you, some will get the hint and will not approach you out of fear or whatever other reason, some will simply not get the hint and for those clueless and oblivious guys you might need to step up the "obviousness" and tell them that you like them.
Author maria gostrey Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 No, but if you're serious about finding a boyfriend, then make sure you're on the lookout for him at all times. Finding a quality boyfriend does make it harder and I sympathize with you in that respect. Women in the 20-30 age range are most sought after by men. That doesn't mean you can't find a boyfriend when you're older than 30, but it might become increasingly difficult. Use your prime years well to wheel in a quality boyfriend. Judging from your photo you should be able to get a boyfriend and judging from your replies you have a level of intelligence that can attract quality boyfriends. i am serious about finding a quality boyfriend. i just don't know where to find a pool of them to start with. i went to u.va, a near ivy league with tons of cute eligible boys galore, but i had personal issues that got in the way of my socializing endeavors. nowadays i have a very limited social outlet through my internships since, like i said, one is female oriented, and the other is a hub of creepy men galore. and i get more frustrated every day especially considering how every day, every week counts. i am not getting any younger or prettier and it is critical that i put myself in social situations where i interact with/become friends with quality people and maybe even find quality guys to finally date. do you have any suggestions where an unemployed girl with limited financial means can make the most of her youth to find guys?
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 but you know, i don't know how to "put myself out there"? currently i'm doing a part time internship at a women's rights ngo which i just started. its in washington, d.c and there are lots of fun girls and women but no boys. i also intern have a marketing and sales internship at this luxury transportation company where the guys are all FOBS and uncultured and creepy. not exactly a good place to come across quality men...:\ I live near Washington D.C., and judging from your picture I'd date you. Seriously though, you're an attractive young lady and there's plenty to do in this area, plenty of opportunities to meet people.
Nexus One Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 do you have any suggestions where an unemployed girl with limited financial means can make the most of her youth to find guys? You could try to get a job at a large tech company. First of all there will be lots of guys there, second of all many of them will be intelligent, but perhaps not the greatest of social heroes. There are bound to be some attractive ones there too due to the large pool of men at such companies. But I'm not sure if it's your thing to work at a tech company, you should also be able to enjoy your job. Another idea is to find a job at a creative company where a lot of guys work. For example film companies, design studios or graphics studios. Those are the guys that are generally well educated in the arts and are more sociable than techs, they also tend to dress more trendy. And I'm sure you thought of online dating. There are free dating websites out there like okcupid.com which can help you find guys to date in your area which you think are attractive and have a similar education level to yours. If you are low on cash you can have them make the dating proposals and let them pay for the dates. Apart from that, always be on the lookout, wherever you are. Don't limit your opportunities for finding a boyfriend to merely the most obvious of social occasions. Sometimes it might even mean you'd have to approach a guy or you will miss your chance.
P&R Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 i am serious about finding a quality boyfriend. i just don't know where to find a pool of them to start with. i went to u.va, a near ivy league with tons of cute eligible boys galore, but i had personal issues that got in the way of my socializing endeavors. nowadays i have a very limited social outlet through my internships since, like i said, one is female oriented, and the other is a hub of creepy men galore. and i get more frustrated every day especially considering how every day, every week counts. i am not getting any younger or prettier and it is critical that i put myself in social situations where i interact with/become friends with quality people and maybe even find quality guys to finally date. do you have any suggestions where an unemployed girl with limited financial means can make the most of her youth to find guys? My current gf is 23 and I'm her first boyfriend. It definitely is not too late.
Wilie Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 << http://www.meetup.com/ >> Now go live your life you young lady... Cheers, Will
musemaj11 Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Get yourself a job first before thinking about getting a boyfriend.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 i went through all of high school and college without finding a boyfriend....now i'm 23 years old and a fresh college grad thrust out into the real world. i don't see any romantic prospects right now...i'm unemployed, have moved back home and don't even have a social life...have i missed my chance at love by not pairing up with someone during my high school and college years? am i too old to find a boyfriend now? this is a pic of me if its relevant to your responses. Your life is young... you have soooooooooooo much time ahead of you... and it will go more smoothly if you stop pressing about the idea of not yet having a life mate. Just pursue other activities... career, school, sports, etc. ... and you'll be quite content when you interact with guys who are connected to activities you enjoy. (and the guys will be even more excited to meet the likes of you via other things they like)
mtber75 Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 i went through all of high school and college without finding a boyfriend....now i'm 23 years old and a fresh college grad thrust out into the real world. i don't see any romantic prospects right now...i'm unemployed, have moved back home and don't even have a social life...have i missed my chance at love by not pairing up with someone during my high school and college years? am i too old to find a boyfriend now? this is a pic of me if its relevant to your responses. Is this a woman's equivalent of "over the hill?" I always wondered if I missed the boat because I never dated that much in high school and college! I'm in my 30s.
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 i went through all of high school and college without finding a boyfriend....now i'm 23 years old and a fresh college grad thrust out into the real world. i don't see any romantic prospects right now...i'm unemployed, have moved back home and don't even have a social life...have i missed my chance at love by not pairing up with someone during my high school and college years? am i too old to find a boyfriend now? this is a pic of me if its relevant to your responses. Eventually you will find a guy and fall into a great relationship. Just make sure you don't marry the first one that fits and shows you attention. Make friends with the other women from the NGO internship, and as you spend time with them eventually you will meet the guys in their network. That is the easiest way for you. Alternately you could try online dating. Personally if you are in D.C. and working with a womens NGO.... that would be a huge turnoff for me... but I'm kind of picky so I'm not a good example.
sunshinegirl Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Dear OP, you are attractive, you seem to have a good head on your shoulders, now don't go ruining all that by letting a desperate vibe take over! I must laugh at your sense of panic at age 23. I was in your shoes at that age, in fact I didn't have my first relationship until I was 27, and I didn't get married until I was 36. I can assure you that it's NOT all downhill from age 23 (which you seem to be worried about!) -- I was in the best health, spirits, and looks of my life in my mid thirties. My best advice is what others have said: go live your life, expand your social circle, and take heart - you are definitely not doomed. Washington can be a great place to meet men (I lived there for 3 years). Keep in mind, however, that if you let yourself think that you are doomed, you will send out an unattractive desperation vibe that will repel the good men that might otherwise be interested.
Dante311 Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 OP - I'm 26, a bachelor's and masters degree... taking a break from academia and working part time. I'm fortunate to have a place of myown, but I am considering moving back home... this economy sucks. You're 23 and attractive. you have a degree.. a lot more than most people have. Be positive... find a local coffee bar and frequent it... bring work to do. Or make use of your time and find a hobby that other people share a similar interest.... dancing... etc.. etc... you'll make it. I'm sure of it.
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