badbrokenteddy Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 My boyfriend and I have a relationship of two years... He recently returned to his home country and is coming back here hopefully for university... He is going to be back here after 2 months. That is for sure as he has a house here and needs to come back. He has told me two weeks ago that he needs space and that he says that he would continue the relationship once he comes back after the two months and no amount of pestering would work for for him to reconcile with me. He also mentioned the more I pester, the more he resents coming back to me. I had also asked a mutual friend of mine to ask him if he still loves me.. His reply was 'Yes but very little'. Another question posed was: Do you intend to be together with her again? His answer was ' Let's see.. but I want a rest now' That mutual friend also has tried to put in a good word for me, but to those good words he said that you don't know her well enough, the pressure is huge.If our problem was so small, it wouldn't have gone to this.. What he is referring to as our problem was the way I treated him, I didn't appreciate him basically, I always threatened to leave with other men when I was angry, I took up all his free time for him to study.. Therefore he got average results for his big university applications. He has also said that when he was so in love with me, all I did was gnaw away at his love, now that his love for me has faded I am trying to patch everything up. But recently when we were talking, he showed very positive responses such as when I told him to tell me what he likes for the flavor of birthday cake cause I don't know him anymore, he said : ' You know' . Also we have been talking about marriage.. He tells me not to cry and to live my life. When he comes back we will work this out.. He wants to start afresh when he comes back, but I want to know.. What are the chances of that happening?What can I do to keep him... I really am afraid of losing him....I'm very afriad that I would lose him...What can I do to make him love me again? He told me to give him time... I did.. We only chat through messenger at night... and conversations are kept light.. What can I do?How can I make this two months more fulfilling and stop pushing him away, making him love me less? How can I make this two months pass faster? How do I handle this?
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