riskygirl Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 My boyfriend just joined the military, and will be leaving in 6 months. We have already planned breaking up and have been talking about it because he will be very busy at school in the navy and training, and doesn't have time. I don't know how I feel about it. Being in a relationship that I know must end. He doesn't want it to end, and neither do I. But it's there. He's also not one to express his true feelings, and I find myself wanting him to say more, and say sweet things to me. We have been dating 6 months. Our getting to know eachother started sexual. So...its a big part of our relationship, especially when we are taking things so casually. Sometimes I feel like maybe I'm only around to fill those sexual desires until he leaves. Has anyone felt this way, or been in a relationship with a clear expiration date? Please reply, I need something. I feel like it is in my head too much. Addtional Info: Yesterday the topic of I love you was brought up. He asked me if I did, because a friend of his said I did, when I did not. He hates when ppl say it too soon, and doesn't believe you can really 'love' someone until at least a year or so. I told him I wouldn't answer his question. But he insisted, and then before I had answered he had shot it down. Said it was impossible, and that it was just my girly instinct and emotions that made me think so. I really don't think I do completely, but I do think I can, and that its going towards that way because my feelings for him have been growing stronger and stronger recently. But then this throws me off course. Its a horrible feeling knowing someone you care about has such a negative view on love, and has said he doesn't love me. I don't need the words, I just want him to let me know that I'm special and mean something to him. He said that once, and I'd like to know if it was still the case...now that things are turning more towards focusing on sex than on how we feel. When I'm kissing and pleasing him...I do it because I have that affection for him truly. But he's a guy so I don't know if its the same for him. I find it a hard battle of wanting more emotionally, and hitting a wall. Advice is needed, and welcomed.
Eddie Edirol Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 If you want him to tell you more things to fill your emotional needs, you have to tell him exactly what you want, he doesnt naturally do it like you'd like. If you already told him what you want (direct words, not hinting) and he doesnt like doing those things, then you two arent compatible. You have to be getting what you want to avoid ending it. Im sure he believes in love, he just needs the right person to love. You have to make sure youre both on the same page if you want this to last past his military term. he probably has no idea what you need.
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