youaretheone Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 (edited) Do girls show the opposite signs to a guy they like because they are shy or nervous around them? This girl I am "supposedly" dating never initiates anything physical but when I touch her hair or body, hold her hand or caress her face, she never resists. She has this favorite move of putting her head close to my chest when she is shy so that I can hug her. She asks my plans for next week when we are out. She even showed me some of her funny photos that she says she can't show anyone. But sometimes, she is so cold and reserved that I feel like she is totally disinterested. I asked her if she considers herself a shy person and she said she is indeed and she is afraid of some type of people. I really enjoy my time with her and continue pursuing but she makes me very confused. What should I do? We are both 20. Edited February 27, 2011 by youaretheone
Author youaretheone Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 What does she do that is cold? And sometimes people that are shy does things that might seem cold because they don't know how to openly express themselves. She does not speak at all and starts checking the environment as if we haven't been talking. Or like when we are having a conversation and I look at her in the eye directly, she looks down and says "Let's go see what friends are doing." and leaves me there alone as if she is running away from me. Another thing is, I heard the rumors that she is living alone because she does not like sharing a flat with foreigners. It looks like she has some trusting issues.
Author youaretheone Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 Waiting for some input! Thank you.
lemonlegs Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Honestly, some people are painfully shy. Don't try and figure it out on a psychological level. That's just all it is, she's shy. If you can handle the awkwardness that painfully shy people sometimes present you with, then keep seeing her and eventually she'll open up to you.
Author youaretheone Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 Thank you for all the replies. So you are saying that she might be interested and I should try my chances.
lululucy Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 It sounds like she is both shy and inexperienced in dating. What she is saying (asking about plans, showing you things she hasn't shown anyone else) points more towards liking you than not liking you. If you like her, I'd keep trying. It might be frustrating but hopefully she can get her barriers down.
alethean Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 She sounds a lot like me! Perhaps for that reason it seems obvious to me that she does like you. The cold behaviors you describe seem like she's afraid more than anything. Eye contact is difficult for me as well, and doubly so for someone I like. I recall doing the "escape" thing too with certain guys so that I feel like the pressure is off me. I think you should definitely go for it, especially if you're a patient person. Lol.
Author youaretheone Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 Those were wonderful advice. Thank you. I am patient and I have faith in this girl.
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