selfrespect118 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Hey im on nc from a breakup wid d girl who broke up wid me.. on the day of the break up we had a lil argument and she decided to break up.. i waited for 5 mins den told her to calm down, she said she did and shes calm and she knows what shes doing and this is it, that shes done wid this relationship thing and she need to concentrate on uva stuff she aint got time 4 d arguments, she agreed we dont argue much but every time we do it takes a lot from her.. i made the mistake of saying she cant do this to me, think about whatur sayin etc etc.. to no avail, then i decided nc.. if u read my previous posts u can see fully what went on.. ps i was always the one in our 11 months that tried sort out the probs etc bcos i fort i shud fight for her even if she dont, thinkin one day when she realises what she has she will fight, stupid i know.. neway after 5 days of silence and nc she texted me today three times with these words: "i faught im nt gna txt u let u get on wiv wot ur doing but its pissin me off..Wt happened? All dese time ur d bigger person d 1 dt is mature enuff but how come u make a new facebook? Putting ur old picture up? Wts dt suppose to mean? Dt ur fine wiv ur old life? U dont need me anymore u dnt give a **** wot i fink or hw i feel nemore? Ukno. Last fing u sed 2 me was "im not giving up on us" remember? How come everything is change technically u have given up on us ukno I wuda pick up d fone n call u ryt now n tel u how much I'm missing you but Im not you kno y? Becos u let go of us n how come (name, boy whos my friend) kno about us breaking up? Is dt hw much u wana prove 2 me dt ur moving on? I'm reading d card u gave me now..wow? How come everything is change in 1 nite? dts fine if u wana move on Bt b4 we both stop talkin 2 each other completely can we please atleast try n keep a friendship? I really dnt wana break up wiv u on a bad term n wen we c each other with hatred I want u 2 remember me as d person u have shared something special with, hope u dnt av regrets N pls don't blank (ignore) me. (her name)".. i didnt reply, 1 half hour later i get.. "Is that how much I'm worth and mean to you ".. i didnt reply, 1 half hour lateri get.. "Ok thank you I got the message (myname) this is it then yeah, no hard feelings you said take care (myname) you will always be in my heart bye xxx" ... HELP ME MAN!!! d fing is i do want her, i love her so much but i dont wana make the same mistake i wanna take my time before i reply, IF i should! First off, she said why i told that guy about the breakup, he asked me BCOS she told sum1 else who asked him! Secondly she posted on facebook 3 days after the breakup that her status was 'SINGLE'.. and she wos d one telling me b4 dat nobody has 2 kno dey can find out however.. im confused, what do u fink people, what she want,i mean she said she misses me but she wants friendship, which i will never give her if she is not mine.. does she want that bcos she finks i gave up? i mean i havent but im on nc so she might be gettin that feeling!! i just want sum tym to fink things through and also im thinknig of not texting until she says i want you back or sumfin about having the relationship back..
Author selfrespect118 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Also on the day of the break up she was telling me how she wanted me to respect her decision if i had any respect for her and that she wont change her mind this time (she done the same fing a few times b4 and wen i quikly made up wid her ME doin all d chasing, she said she didnt mean it).. also when i kept asking her to reconsider and put things into perspective like not make decisions based on an argument she said look im not angry im calm and ive made up my mind.. she is really stubborn she accepts it herself and said for me she did want to work on it.. She is my first love and i do love her very much.. and i know she loves me too but y d *** wud u let sum1 go if u love them??mayb bcos u fink dey will always b der for u!? also her ex who was a rebound from anuva long relationship she had,that ex stayed a friend with her on the hope of getting back, i feel sorry for him but im not gonna do that!!! i cant be her friend! Im not over her how can I? I do want her back but is this too early to start again? its been 6 days..and i dont know what to do.. i mean i dont want her to move on to anuva guy, but i dont want that fear to control me to ask her back.. i want to work on any issues we had first and also for her to say I WANT YOU BACK or I WANT TO RECONSIDER.. and i dont want her to do it out of desperation, i want her to mean it.. Im so SOOO TEMPTED to text her.. please advice me what to do.. Thanks
westrock Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I tried to read your post 3 times and I cannot understand what you are writing or what she is saying either. Please, write in real English, not text-speak. From what I was able to decipher, if you want her back then text her. She has already texted you 3 times and you have not replied back? Why? Come on man. Clear communication is the key.
Author selfrespect118 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Let me clarify: Hey im on nc from a breakup with the girl who broke up with me.. on the day of the break up we had a little argument and she decided to break up.. i waited for 5 minutes then told her to calm down, she said she did and shes calm and she knows what shes doing and that this is it, that shes done with this relationship thing and she needs to concentrate on other stuff and that she hasn't got time for arguments, she agreed we dont argue much but every time we do it takes a lot from her.. i made the mistake of saying she cant do this to me, think about what your sayin etc etc.. to no avail, then i decided nc.. if u read my previous posts u can see fully what went on.. ps i was always the one in our 11 months that tried sort out the problems etc because i felt i should fight for her even if she doesn't, thinking one day when she realises what she has she will fight, stupid i know.. anyway after 5 days of silence and nc she texted me today three times with these words: "i though im not going to text you and let u get on with what your doing but its pissing me off..What happened? All this time you were the bigger person the one that is mature enough but how come you made a new facebook? Putting your old picture up? Whats that supposed to mean? that ur fine with your old life? you dont need me any more you dont give a **** wot i fink or how i feel any more? you know,the Last fing you said to me was "im not giving up on us" remember? How come everything has changed, technically you have given up on us you know I would have picked up the phone and called you right now and told you how much I'm missing you but Im not and you know why? Because you let go of us and how come (name of boy who is my friend) knows about us breaking up? Is that how much u want to prove to me that your moving on? I'm reading the card you gave me now..wow? How come everything has changed in 1 night? thats fine if u want to move on But before we both stop talking to each other completely can we please atleast try and keep a friendship? I really dont want to break up with you on a bad term and when we see each other i dont want to you to see me with hatred I want u to remember me as the person you have shared something special with, hope you dont have regrets and please don't blank (ignore) me. (her name)".. i didnt reply, 1 half and hour later i get.. "Is that how much I'm worth and mean to you ".. i didnt reply, 1 and half hour later i get.. "Ok thank you I got the message (myname) this is it then yeah, no hard feelings you said take care (myname) you will always be in my heart bye xxx" ... HELP ME MAN!!! the thing is i do want her, i love her so much but i dont want make the same mistake i want to take my time before i reply, IF i should! First off, she asked why i told that guy about the breakup, he asked me BECAUSE of her! she told someone else who asked him! Secondly she posted on facebook 3 days after the breakup that her status was 'SINGLE'.. and she was the one telling me before that nobody has to know they can find out however.. im confused, what do you think people, what does she want, i mean she said she misses me but she wants friendship, which i will never give her if she is not mine.. does she want that because she feels i gave up? i mean i havent but im on nc so she might be getting that feeling!! i just want some time to think things through and also im thinknig of not texting until she says i want you back or sumfin about having the relationship back..
gator12 Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Wow lol. I cant believe you actually rewrote the entire message lol. Let me put it to you simply, do not respond to her. You still have no reason to at this point. If you want her back she still hasn't told you she wants you back so there is no point in responding. Stay in NC, breaking it will only end badly, read my guide for some more advice, pay particular attention to the part on breadcrumbs because that is exactly what these are. -Gator
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