After break up, how is little contact affecting her? good or bad..

[seanmathews3]

So my ex girlfriend and i broke up about a week ago..

After the break up we went of few days of barely any texting..

i was being pretty short and simple with her, meaning i wasnt going out of my way to keep the conversation going..

 

so after a few days of little contact.. we had our first day of no contact at all.. and believe me is killed me.. and it still does.. she ended up calling me in the middle of the night and we talked and she sounded sick and stuffy but she told me it was something else (crying). So she was asking to see me so i went over for a little and we talked a little.. she was basically saying how weird it was not talking to me and that day was the longest we havent talked..

 

so im glad it was bothering her as much as it was bothering me..

 

so a few days after that (yesterday) we had another non contact day.. but this time she didnt call.. i plan on talking to her tonight for certain reasons..

 

do you think she was still bothered about it yesterday? id like to think so kuz i sure was... i'd like to think it drove her crazy as much as it did me

 

and will less contact be a good or bad thing on her realizing things..

or would a little more contact be better..

[Anna86]

I know how you feel....Its really difficult!!

 

I have learnt when you are in love its hard for both parties after the break up. Its hard for the dumper and dumpee. The dumpee feels rejected and lost while the dumper feels guilty and maybe regret.

 

She seems really upset and I am sure she will be upset for a long time by the sounds of it. Does that mean you guys should get back together? I am not sure. If you don't think you have a chance to get back together maybe go NC for a few weeks, Wow, easier said than done. But if you think you have a chance to get back together maybe keep in some form of contact but nothing heavy or stressful. Just the odd text or call.

 

To be honest, I have no idea as every relationship is so different. How sis you break up? Was it mutual?