9Lives Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 As some of you know, I made a "Big Girl" of not letting my ex back into my life when he came around again. That was huge considering, He meant so much to me. It was hard but I cant do it. Anyway, I read couple articles about it and discovered some things I want to share with someone who wants to get a second chance with their ex to consider. First of all, be honest with yourself. If you want that person back that is fine. This is the foundation of your decisions from there. Now, when the ex comes back, the big questions becomes, what does that person want. Do they want to get back together, do they want to be friends, do they want some ass...why are you back here? This is where additional heartache can set in or you can save yourself some pain later on by getting to the bottom of this early on. This is what you need to think about if you decide you are going to play the friend card in hopes to reconcile. Staying friends can be even harder and cause even more pain....if you want that person back. If you dont, then you should be fine. It makes it HARDER to open up the next chapter in your life if you are still trying to get back with someone else. Its hard not to become friends with benefits which will put you thru an emotional ringer if you want more. This is to name a few things to consider. I hadnt seen him since last Aug. I see him for the first time and we are in bed already. I dont regret it but I knew I needed to get a understanding cause I still like him. When I asked the question, he said it was good to talk back to me and see me. He was missing me. He didnt mention, lets work on it...lets take it slow. So that meant, here we go. I knew I wasnt ready for this. At the end of the day, YOU have to be true to yourself. I am still inlove with my ex. But I love my peace of mind more. I love being in my right mind again. I love that Im not worried about why he hasnt called or what he is doing or whatever. I cant be 100% with him around right now so he had to go. I would love to be his woman again but he is not saying he wants that. All Im saying is be careful. This is a heart matter and you have to watch out for yourself.
wildcars Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Playing the friend card is VERY dangerous! It gives the assurance to the dumper that it was ok, and you are ok, and so it will be even easier for them to move on with the break up and feel nothing! DO NOT BE FRIENDS! Simple as that!
Author 9Lives Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Playing the friend card is VERY dangerous! It gives the assurance to the dumper that it was ok, and you are ok, and so it will be even easier for them to move on with the break up and feel nothing! DO NOT BE FRIENDS! Simple as that! your right Wildcars...Simple as that!!!! They sometimes start to feel it too when you stand your ground. Even if they have someone else. That does not stop them from missing someone else. It happens.
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