oli Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I went out on a date with this guy who I thought was really charming, funny, smart, and handsome. As it turns out, he was interested in only one thing and not looking for anything serious. I know the simple answer to this is that I just don't give in to carnal pleasures but that doesn't seem realistic. I suppose what I am looking for is how to find acceptance with this one night stand and what other ways can I avoid such situations?
xpaperxcutx Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Women tend to like men who are aloof because one, it makes us go ga-ga over the fact that a guy is not ga-ga over us and two, human infatuation usually involves wanting something we can't have. Walk away now before you entrap yourself in an emotionally charged yet unreciprocated love affair. Also to avoid similar situations in the future, a man's honesty is in the simplicity of his words. They always mean it when they say they don't want a relationship and it usually means they don't want a relationship with YOU.
Author oli Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Oh, definitely. I'm walking away and don't feel emotionally attached at all. If anything, I'm just disappointed but I'm sure that'll wear off in a couple of days. Mostly disappointed in myself... I let my guard down.
SingVoice Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Don't be disappointed in yourself! Things happen. I went out on a date with a guy who was the same...totally charming...hot..super sweet...said all the right things. When it came to the end of the night he REALLY wanted to have sex...and I thought to myself "Yes I need to get some...but if I want a relationship I need to wait." And you know what? I NEVER heard from him again. (SO GLAD I didn't sleep with him) You just have to be smart...if you really want a relationship then hold out for one. Don't beat yourself up.
Author oli Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Thanks, SingVoice! That was very supportive of you It looks like the only way to avoid all of this in the first place is just curbing my sexual appetite, which is fine. I learned from this experienced that academics can be total man-whores too. Live and learn!
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