Diddums Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 (edited) Ill give a background story as "brief" as possible please read it. My ex broke up with me after a year and 2 months, her first love and the longest relationship she had with someone. We broke due to losing that spark and just us both had lack of communication and started to drift apart, not conflict. As soon as she broke up with me started talking to a guy she said was like her new best friend that she also found attractive(he stayed over hers alot, out for meals and going out)she wanted me to be her friend as well. I said i need time to think and on christmas day i went no contact till a week later she called me saying she cared,loved and missed me but still wanted to be friends yet she was worried i was with someone else and got jealous at the thought. 1 month on of talking and hardly seeing each other due to her interests in this guy more tension built as i kept breaking down. the day came when it was the anniversary of her dads death which ino is a bad day for her so i called to check on her and she didnt want to talk to anyone, she had the new guy round and they kissed, talk about using someone in a vulnerable state! Week after i called and said i couldnt be a friend it was hurting me too much, i tried to block her on facebook which accidently without my knowing deleted her, and i thought she deleted me which is why i left her alone. 2 days later my friend told me she had started a relationship with this guy and then i got a message from her asking why i deleted her, i explained my side not admitting to deleting her stupidly though. I told i knew she was with this guy and that it was best for me not to readd her or talk while with him as it would cause me to much pain to lie to myself and her and try be happy when i wasnt, she was upset by this and said she was confused about everything, so i let her be with him wishing the best. 2 weeks later it was my birthday and she sent me a text saying happy birthday, i replied saying thanks, she then asked if i was still going to a gig that night which we both planned to go to with her friends and my friends and her new boyfriend which was planned 2 weeks before they got together . I went with my friends and by luck bumped into them, my ex kept turning around to look at me through the crowd with her slightly depressed look, i ignored her being there and just enjoyed myself pretending i didnt notice her, i also noticed her boyfriend didnt come! A week on i got a text from her saying can you block these 2 people on msn and facebook they may try twist things about me, now these 2 people she knows i hate and never talk to so i ignored the text as i thought it was her attempt at contact, she sent another few days later i ignored it again. I thought she would try contact again, and she did! Only this time i replied she said how she had a awful week and she was depressed so i listened and changed the subject to something more happy, she told me how she got into a uni she wanted, and how she amusingly got a £300 phone bill which i made fun of and she laughed about it, it felt like when we first started talking so i left the convo on a high point(short and sweet) she then readded me on facebook which i have not accepted yet as im not sure what to do or make of things. Any ideas why now she starts to contact me after a month with her new boyfriend which i think is a rebound, and even though i said it hurts to talk to her knowing shes with him she decides to readd me and start talking and attempting to contact me. I feel she may miss me and be seeing me in a different light now and seeing him in a not so pleasing one as i cant understand why she didnt go to her boyfriend to talk about things isnt that what partners do support each other? Also extra detail her new boyfriend is the complete opposite to me in every way(interests, looks, doesnt work, has no education) me and my ex had alot in common i can only see the interest is because this guy was a new toy and he may be good looking. Im not a mind reader sadly. Thanks alot for your time Edited February 27, 2011 by Diddums
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