zengirl Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Basic situation: My boyfriend and I hit a rough patch. He had some major doubts (not sure if he loved me, not sure where this relationship is going, not sure if he wanted to be in it, etc) that led to us breaking up. I pushed a little, which didn't help. Maybe if I had let him stew with his thoughts we wouldn't have broken up. But I don't do well with uncertainty and I knew something was wrong. Now, he is wishing we hadn't broken up (this has all happened within the past week; we haven't even exchanged stuff yet). But I am not sure. He has gotten back together with everyone he's ever dated. Always had 2 break ups with them. How will we be different? This is obviously his pattern. My friends are a bit shocked, and they all said they thought we were the perfect couple. However, we haven't done many group things with my friends since December, so we WERE when they saw us. Our rough patch was part of January; most of February was good until last weekend, which was rough. He was also sick. I've been working major overtime all month, stressed, and going through some other stuff. I really want a 'break' at least if we're going to do this again, but I don't want a 'break' and not to see other people (this is what he initially asked for! He doesn't want me to see anyone else, but he doesn't want to be in this relationship right now) because it's unfair. I was fine. That said, even though now he is saying he doesn't need a 'break' I think we both do. Any thoughts? I am going to go get my stuff next week, towards next weekend. I don't imagine he and I will be discussing what to do before then. Maybe he will even change his mind again.
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