turokturok5 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I know its ridiculous, only 2 months together, but i really liked her, she was everything i saw in a girl apart from our expectations our a relationship. I was her first boyfriend, so maybe she was just scared of committment, i never tried to push her, i accepted she didnt want to kiss me in front of anyone else because i cared about her. The most we did was make-out and i never tried to push it further, i just liked to be with her. She dumps me for being clingy, how does she know what its like to have someone be clingy, i was her first ever boyfriend, we hardly ever caught up alone so it didnt make sense to her best friend, because she said i was hardly clingy at all, if she would've just told me sooner then i would've backed off, i lost a previous girlfriend for showing too little affection, being dumped yet again, but for showing too much is the worst feeling. Its nearly been a month, 2 and 1/2 weeks of that has been NC and she hasn't tried to communicate with me. We were such good friends before we started dating, we could talk for hours and hours about anything and now its like i dont even exist. Whats worse is my main way of taking her off my mind was to go out with my mates, and now its pretty clear that my best friend is after her, hes just always trying to get close to her, he posts on her wall on facebook, he never use to come out when we were dating, now he always does and theres so many other signs. I just feel so betrayed and empty, i really want her back, but i know deep down i cant have her, she doesnt want me, she offered me friendship, i declined by deleting her off facebook, hoping she would miss me and try to contact me, it just caused her to remove me from her life. Should i go see a therapist, someone i can talk to it about and get some advice, does it make you feel better and help you move on, thanks.
Beaver Bob Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Real damage real problems, real therapist. You can stay busy, that helps, don't do anything that reminds you of her. Mouse
huskers11 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I completely understand most of your situation! My ex boyfriend and I did the dating process for close to 4 months and officially dated for 2. I too fell for him rather quickly and I still don't understand the breakup. This was my first real relationship and when it ended a month ago I was devastated. I did not know how to handle it or what I should do! About a week into the breakup, I decided to go to counseling because I wasn't getting better. I was getting worse and feeling more and more hopeless about life and the situation. Seeing the counseler helped more than anything. Just talking with her a few times helped put a lot into perspective. I'm still grieving the relationship and I have bad days but ultimately I know I will have a future and survive this. Whether or not my ex will be in my life only time will tell but it isn't as gloomy as it first seemed! Honestly the only person who knows if you need to talk to someone is you! In my case, talking with her really really helped. I've actually seen her a few times now! It doesn't make it instantly better but it gives you an outlet to talk and evaulate your feelings! As far as your friend is concerned, he doesn't sound like a very good friend! Neither of them sound like they are worth your time but understandably you can't help it because you cared about both of them! Just take this time to focus on you and if you need help then see a counseler! Trust me, just because it was a 2 month long relationship doesn't make the feelings or the pain any less real!!
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