MH_91 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Well, Hello Forum, Hope you all doing well, This is my 1st post in this forum, and i just registered in this forum. So, i really wish to find answers and help in this forum! Before i tell you my story, and i promise i make it as short as possible, cause i know some people dont like long stories lol .. anyway right now, i dont know where should i put my emotions, i dont know if i shall be mad or sad or even happy... so, there is a girl in my life, and i really like her, and she do. but lately our relationship is going down to hill. How it started? lately ( a week now ) her text msgs stared to be sooo cold to me. like she replay to the point of where my msgs was. sometimes she take long time to replay and sometime she ignore my msgs. Before it was so warm and every single txt from her just made me smile. But now its just cold.. that was the bad thing. But,lately, we were having lot of calls together. but everytime it was getting shorter and shorter. but what i notice was. i always said bye to her. she said said i gtg only once maybe.. what i'm trying to say. maybe i am getting too sensitive about this girl. and when she dont replay or make her msgs short she drive me crazy about it ?? also, tonight ( like now ) i asked her out, and i said to her, if she wanna join me to the party or we go out and watch a movie. she said " sweeti, i'm very tired, and i have to work tomorrow morning" and i got mad at this point, cause she ditched me up 4 times so far! But her reasons Expect this one the were reasonable and acceptable, and i am saying that because i know what she is facing. thats why i am still trying my best to dont let this ship sank. and i replied " k, bye " after that i stoped texting her. But i felt bad that i was super rude to her. so i dont know if i shall ignore her for few days or not...( im not type of boy who like that playing mind thing) i was thinking on Monday i go and buy her a Card and send her to her mail. like a cute one. and at lest it make her smile this problem its been a week or more for it. and i know her for six month now. and for the pass 6 month ( expect now ) i thought she might really be someone.. cause she care too. i havent said all details. But she DO CARE about me too anyway, i tried my best to make the story short and understandable. im really looking froward to hear your comments. Have a Great day in Advance Cheers.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Technology has really distanced people in interpersonal relationship. There should be a balance, talking/ texting over the phone and making an effort to see each other in person. You're putting in effort, she's not. If she's being flakey, the only thing to do is not be on the receiving end of her flakiness.
Distant78 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 She's fake. Drop her and don't look back.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Two options, the way I see you it you can either: 1. Next her 2. Rotate her
Author MH_91 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Thank you so much guys for the replays, and i respect your comments. as i told you before, i did not told you the whole details, but the thing is she is facing ton of problems, which make her soo stressed. and she is kind of people that dont like sharing their problems to other ppl, but she told me few of them, and if i were her, i would've suffered as well so, im gonna try one last time, to make that relationship back to normal if its possible. im going to ignore her for the rest of the day, maybe this ignoring thing, will make her review what have she done.. and tomorrow i will call her, and we will talk about the problems and try my best to help her out so yeah thats what im going to do... please share ur ideas as welll with me thanks lot !
makelemonade1974 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Two options, the way I see you it you can either: 1. Next her 2. Rotate her I like this - this is fabulous.
jane100 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Technology has really distanced people in interpersonal relationship. There should be a balance, talking/ texting over the phone and making an effort to see each other in person. TOT-ALLY. Also "in person" you can get more of a sense of what is really going on, less confusion and communicate properly, at least that is what I am discovering.
carhill Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Wish her success in dealing with her problems and move on. Right now, she is not a healthy romantic potential. Be proactive rather than reactive. If you indeed have romantic interest, being her friend is not a healthy path and, if she has 'problems', even a healthy friendship is a likely unfruitful path, as she has little to give to you right now.
Author MH_91 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 I like this - this is fabulous. i dont get it ?
Author MH_91 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 oo wow, im getting ton of comments in this out of sudden THanks guys!! but still, none of you guys are agreeing or disagreeing with my options that im offering for her shall i do it or not ( just read the comment i posted before )
Author MH_91 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Two options, the way I see you it you can either: 1. Next her 2. Rotate her i dont get it...
seibert253 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Her short and coldness suggests she wants space. There may be good reasons, or she may being trying to ditch you but afraid to say so. In any instance, she wants space, GIVE IT TO HER. Don't contact her, let her contact you. If in a week or so she doesn't call or text, well then you have your answer as to why she wants space. If in a few days she gets up with you and you get the "why haven't you called", pretty simple answer. You could sense by her reactions and lack of attentiveness that she needed some space. You were only accomidating.
Cee Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Don't send her a card. You shouldn't reward her pulling away from you by being nicer. Instead, pay less attention to her. Don't call, text or IM. Spend some time with your friends and try to keep yourself busy. If she really cares about you, she'll get in touch. And if she doesn't, you have your answer.
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