MidnightinMadrid Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 hi everyobody Here is this great advice on NC,i read it in another forum site,it literally blew me away! I really hope this helps anyone who wants to contact their exes or beleives that their loved ones has forgotten about them if sticking to NC. Apparently it doesnt,its a great thread,hope everyone here will agree! http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=188626
HeavenOrHell Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 There are too many points there talking about NC working to get ex's back, the other points are good, but NC should only be used when you want to move on, not when you want to try to get back with someone. In rare cases NC brings an ex back but they usually leave again.
Shatter3d Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Very true...NC will work to bring them back in rare occasions but if not enough time has passed, the relationship will fail again within a couple/few months. Im talking from experience here... Hoping for a third round, but with each day that hope fades. I just need to come to the realisation that some people are just not meant to be, and sadly that goes for my situation. Even though we didnt break up for reasons of infidelity etc, we were just not compatible in the end, and no amount of counselling or time will ever fix that...
Author MidnightinMadrid Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 (edited) There are too many points there talking about NC working to get ex's back, the other points are good, but NC should only be used when you want to move on, not when you want to try to get back with someone. In rare cases NC brings an ex back but they usually leave again. Hi HH,and thanks Shatter3d for replying! Well its true that NC should be used to heal and move on but realistically how many times has the move on comment been stressed meanwhile more and more people who post threads on LS are still struggling with NC. At least ,I believe,that it gives people something to relate to and more of a strong reason to stick to NC so eventually they will move on. It seems knowledge of doing NC for yourself never stopped the countless, I broke NC threads,which I myself am soo guilty of. Personally with the help of NC I realized I am better off without him;however I have to admit that I and i'm sure many others have come to this or other site scamming threads hoping to find anything that supports the tiniest sliver of hope that perhaps there is a beneficial side of NC.-aside from healing,but that coveted phone call or contact from the ex. As I said,this post is like giving that incentive to stay on NC whether its for you or your ex,whatever the reason,that kind of positive encouragement is a reason enough to stick to it. Edited February 27, 2011 by MidnightinMadrid
Shatter3d Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Hi MM, thankyou for posting this Hopefully it will help people who are struggling with NC and re-enforces the reasons why it's so beneficial !! I must admit, I'm trying NC for reasons of hoping that the ex misses me and wants to come back, but to be honest as each day goes by that hope seems to fade. We have been broken up for 2 months and only now I feel strong enough to stick with NC. My heart goes out to each and every one of you who is feeling this pain.But I know we will get through this.
Author MidnightinMadrid Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 (edited) Your welcome Shatter3d! If you read comments on this thread,the poster said that when people actually move on,that is when things start happening. Sort of like when you want something so badly the minute you giv it up or turn your focus to something else,it will happen. In this site alone there are countless of 'Ex contacted me' threads,so never give up even the tiniest of hope. I know its hard,look at me i'm alot longer in NC,after i broke it and didnt get a response which cause me to stay on strict NC-and I can say that I am feeling much better for it! It comes and goes but eventually you'll get there. Sure a tad bit part of me would like to hear from him,notice,like,not love,NC does give you perspective ,give it time. He contacted me months before he will again and so will yours. Although I no longer do that but what helped me in the past,was googling those ex contacted me threads, which folks who never thought they'd hear from their ex after months and months,we're not going to say years bc it does happen too! Usually after they have left it alone,thru NC. My favorite thought is if it is meant to be it will happen,I won't say if it doesnt..,gotta be positive,you ahould too! Edited February 28, 2011 by MidnightinMadrid
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