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Close friends, to lovers, to nothing. Why dont i exist anymore?


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I met this amazing girl at school, she was the nicest person i had ever met and she was very pretty, i slowly got to know her untill we started dating in december. We have so much in common, and i feel so comfortable talking to her and i trusted her 100% which is pretty amazing as i have issues when it comes to trusting people. We're both nearly 18 and i was her first boyfriend, she was my second girlfriend.

 

Well at the 7 week mark we started to have a few problems, just little arguments over things about us never doing things alone, nothing too serious. But then after 2 months, out of the blue, she breaks up with me. Now i knew we hit a bit of a rough patch so i went to her house so we could talk about it and sort things out, but she said "we need to talk" and my heart instantly sank. She said she didnt feel the same anymore, that we were better off this way, she couldnt go back to the way things were but i was the nicest and sweetest guy she had ever met and she still wanted to be friends. I got up to leave and she begged me to stay (she was crying) so i stayed, and we just talked for 2 hours as if nothing had ever gone wrong, her friend told me the next day that this had made me ex feel lost. I went to her house the next day and pleaded my case, telling her i was sorry for what i did wrong, that i could change, that i loved her etc etc but she said it couldnt happen, but she looked pretty down.

 

I found out from her best friend that i was dumped for being too clingy. Me and her friend dont really get this. I knew i may have gone a bit over the top, such as when we were sitting down watching movies i would stroke her cheek or kiss her on the shoulder/neck occasionally, but she didnt really seem to mind. She never told me that i was being too clingy, i offered her space once because she seemed distant, but she quickly rejected the idea. I did call her quite a bit when we were having issues, but only to talk to her either face-to-face or over the phone, as talking on facebook can be mis-leading.

 

So its been a month now. After a few weeks i tried to talk to her on facebook, she said she had been going great and asked me how i was, and i apologized for getting desperate and she said it was all good and we could be close friends again. I talked to her again a few days later and she pretty much ignored me. I got pretty pissed after a while and deleted her off facebook and removed everything she had ever gave me, as i figured she didnt want to reconcile.

 

Apart from at the uni orienation, i havent talked to her for 2 and 1/2 weeks today. I half-expected her to atleast text me, since she was so insistant about staying friends. I was meant to go to a small gathering (10 people) the other day where she was, but i didnt end up going, i went to another party as it would be hard for me to see her.

 

It's just really starting to get to me. We both work at a supermarket, not the same one, but when we would both come home from work we would share our funny stories about customers and such, when i came home from work today i had lots of stories to tell...but no-one to tell them to and its just really upsetting. We just got on so well, had so many things in common and now she acts like i dont even exist because i was too "clingy" in our relationship? How does that make any sense, you hear about other people who have horrible break-ups, cheating, lying etc but they still remain friends and end up dating again. What do you think shes thinking, do i mean nothing to her now, i heard she was having trouble keeping me out of her head last week, but why wont she contact me, can i get some female opinions on the matter if possible, and what should i do!

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