nowwhatnow Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 so, just a question, but how long did an ex contact you after the break? im going on 5 months since the break, 4 months NC. i still have hope he is gonna contact me. so what has happened in your experience??
Layzie89 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 She broke up with me a little over 2 months ago. 31 days strict NC. She contacted me through text on day 24 of NC. All she said was 'How are you?' I didn't reply.
Author nowwhatnow Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 ya mine contacted me after 1 month inviting me to his bday party. i told him no and to not bother me...he has never contacted me since ....but i am still waiting for him to want me back
maddii Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Mine contacted me after about 6 weeks no contact, he told me he didn't want to see me again as it would be awkward, and I refused to only be an online friend.. He contacted me starting a casual conversation, and then deleted me again after I didn't reply to something he said a few days later... Completely pointless imo...
strangeways Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Got an email after about 4 months of NC (4.5 months since we broke). A meaningless, insincere, ambiguous "apology" (more guilt and curiosity really). Didn't reply. That was about 5/6 weeks ago. Nothing from her since and not expecting anything more.
Author nowwhatnow Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 and thats it? nothing ever again? as if you never even existed??
brokenheart311 Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 and thats it? nothing ever again? as if you never even existed?? Isn't that kind of the point? You pretend they never existed, they pretend you never existed and life goes on? I have very limited contact with my ex and the only reason we have any contact is because we have a daughter together and I'm pregnant with his twin boys. Even with that, we are getting to a point where we don't talk. I haven't talked to him in two weeks. He hasn't contacted our daughter in 3 weeks. As much as I love him, it was time for him to go. Honestly, with NC, it helps you move on, not get back together. That's not saying you can't get back together, just that I wouldn't really use it as a tool to get back in a relationship with your ex.
strangeways Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 and thats it? nothing ever again? as if you never even existed?? I'm moving on with the idea that, yes, that is indeed it. TBH I wouldn't be surprised by anything she did now. Isn't that kind of the point? You pretend they never existed, they pretend you never existed and life goes on? ^^^^This. She was out of our relationship long before she left (despite what she said). One of the hardest things at the beginning was thinking I'll never see her again. That's just the way it goes. I've got plenty of ex's that I've never seen again. Now, she's just another of them. Her loss.
marqueemoon4 Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 I'm moving on with the idea that, yes, that is indeed it. TBH I wouldn't be surprised by anything she did now. ^^^^This. She was out of our relationship long before she left (despite what she said). One of the hardest things at the beginning was thinking I'll never see her again. That's just the way it goes. I've got plenty of ex's that I've never seen again. Now, she's just another of them. Her loss. honestly I'd rather never see my ex ever again than see her twice a week and have her act like I'm invisible. Thats very difficult for me.
collegeguy_24 Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 My ex broke up with me in August, and I went NC in September. I waited until December before I contacted her again, to see if we could friendship cause I still want her in my life, even as a friend. SHe didn't get back to me till January, claiming bad internet, we talked about a month ago, she hasn't responded to my last email. THe only way I would contact her now is if I was dying. As you can, it all changes depending on the situation. In my situation, I don't plan to contact her again. I put the ball in her court, she ignored it so she can contact me or not at all. Your situation may be different, I know several people on this board who have had simile breakups to mine, but NC and contact was all different..
Author nowwhatnow Posted February 28, 2011 Author Posted February 28, 2011 thanks for the feeback. to give some background, he was going through a difficult period in his life and just said he was confused about everything. he never said he didnt love me any longer (although his actions pretty much say it all...). he only had good things to say about our relationship (it was almost 2 years). so i guess i just keep thinking hes gonna realize what he lost and come back. call me crazy but i cant let go of this hope.
Solear Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Initially 9 months it took her to contact me, under the banner of getting a computer program back. a few texts here and there after but no apologies. I made the mistake of telling her I missed her and she didn't reply that hurt alot. I left it for a few weeks and sent a well meaning Happy new year text and got nothing again in return. So i vowed then never to contact her again. I started seeing someone else a few weeks ago and lo and behold who decides I exist again?... yeah you guessed it. Text at one in the morning. I replied who is this? Nothing since.
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