omegavector Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I'm in my early 30s, she's in her mid 20s, we've been married a year. Over the year we've been married, I've noticed she seems very facinated with thug type rap stars, thier lyrics and tattoos. She's pointed out a few that are "hot". Additionally, she's always checking out women. Telling me "she's hot", "she's pretty" and "she looks badass, I want to be her friend" My wife has always been very private about our life and we dont talk openly with others about our personal business. Also, she's hesitant to give details of her past, including her sex life and the number of guys she's dated and or had sexual relations with, while I have openly and clearly answered any question she ever asks. She's let it known to me that she's insecure about how past conquests may make her look to me or others. I assure her, there isnt anything she could ever or ever had said or done to make me judge her or not love her. Another thing is this- at random moments, she will tell me that if I ever cheat on her, she will divorce me. No specific circumstances leading to her statement. Could be any given time during an average days routine for anyone. My question is this: Is she attracted to "badboy" type of black men? Is she secretly gay or bisexual? Has she or is she trying to build the confidence and courage to cheat? Personally, as I've already said, if she wants to explore her sexuality and have extramarital affairs with other men or women, who am i to stand in the way of her self discovery. Anyone have some advise on this?
Distant78 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I'm in my early 30s, she's in her mid 20s, we've been married a year. Over the year we've been married, I've noticed she seems very facinated with thug type rap stars, thier lyrics and tattoos. She's pointed out a few that are "hot". Additionally, she's always checking out women. Telling me "she's hot", "she's pretty" and "she looks badass, I want to be her friend" My wife has always been very private about our life and we dont talk openly with others about our personal business. Also, she's hesitant to give details of her past, including her sex life and the number of guys she's dated and or had sexual relations with, while I have openly and clearly answered any question she ever asks. She's let it known to me that she's insecure about how past conquests may make her look to me or others. I assure her, there isnt anything she could ever or ever had said or done to make me judge her or not love her. Another thing is this- at random moments, she will tell me that if I ever cheat on her, she will divorce me. No specific circumstances leading to her statement. Could be any given time during an average days routine for anyone. My question is this: Is she attracted to "badboy" type of black men? Is she secretly gay or bisexual? Has she or is she trying to build the confidence and courage to cheat? Personally, as I've already said, if she wants to explore her sexuality and have extramarital affairs with other men or women, who am i to stand in the way of her self discovery. Anyone have some advise on this? From the looks of it, she may already "explored". You sure you want a spouse who will cheat and disrespect you? Because that is what's she's doing.
Author omegavector Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 more than anything, I'm curious how to get her to feel comfortable enough to open up without feeling threatened or judges. I married her for life and love her unconditionally. I think being more open and honest will only strenghten our relationship
avenger Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 You married a woman who did not give you a clear answer on her sexual past and her past in general? I would have passed on her no offense. I hate to tell you this but you married her and you may have a cheating bi-sexual wife or she maybe thinking about cheating if the opportunity comes around. Or that threat about her divorcing you is her way of keeping you in check. You should have backed that up with the same statement to her too. I think in the long run she will begin to walk over you a bit..... She just sounds like a semi shady person to mee. Sorry....
Darth Vader Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 You married a woman who did not give you a clear answer on her sexual past and her past in general? I would have passed on her no offense. I hate to tell you this but you married her and you may have a cheating bi-sexual wife or she maybe thinking about cheating if the opportunity comes around. Or that threat about her divorcing you is her way of keeping you in check. You should have backed that up with the same statement to her too. I think in the long run she will begin to walk over you a bit..... She just sounds like a semi shady person to mee. Sorry.... I agree on the shady part! Thing is, she's clearly not communicating with you! She checking out other men and women right in front of you, humiliating and disrespecting you, then she has the gall to say if you cheat, then I'm divorcing you! She's a Hypocrite! Man up and call her on it!
Chi townD Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 RED FLAGS ALL OVER THE PLACE! You really need to sit her down and talk to her before this get out of control. You really need to communicate BEFORE you start posting that she IS cheating on you. Nip it in the bud!
mitchell Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Perhaps explore the concept of an open marriage. She may be relieved to find that you would be willing to allow her to explore her sexuality. You two could lay down some ground rules as to how the open marriage would function.
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