wmrjw82 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 (edited) I was just thinking of something and wanted some thoughts on the matter. Towards the end, my ex made our relationship seem very insignificant. Saying things like "it was only a 6 month relationship", "you're nice but you're not the one", "i loved you to an extent but there are different kinds of love and different stages" She also told me how spiritual she was and she had signs from God that she needed to get out. Obviously, i'm here on a message board 6 weeks later talking about how hurt Iam and how much she meant to my son and I. We constantly talked about marriage and how much we loved each other. I have letters and emails from her saying how she wanted me to be the father of her child and how she couldn't imagine her life without my son and I. Is it possible that only I felt that deep love? Can a person really turn 180 degrees and lie throughout an entire relationship? If so, it makes me feel so stupid and insignificant. I'm feeling a deep resentment towards her for those comments and myself for missing signs if this was indeed the case. I guess my question is... do you think the relationship was really as insignificant to her as she claimed or was this a way for her to make me leave? Was she telling me the truth? Edited February 27, 2011 by wmrjw82
RomoGuy Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Your story sounds scary similar to mine, you should read it. I ask myself the same thing you are. My story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t259492/
Author wmrjw82 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 God i'm so lost....anything could help right now guys?
strangeways Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 This probably isn't going to help but I'll say it anyway. She met my kids etc. We talked marrsige, kids, the whole 9 yards. You've asked an unanswerable question. I get it. Round and round. Always ending up at the beginning. I've been there and so have a lot of others here. It's your ego wanting a certain answer to something you'll never be certain about. The ego is a cruel b***h at times. For me, the real question was "did I REALLY feel the way I thought and said I did?". If the answers yes then you can walk away with your head held high and know you never lied. Took me 5 months to get there. What she felt says nothing about you. What you felt says everything about you. Just my 2 pence.
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