Titania22 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Hey Guys, As I am getting older I am getting so horny alot of the time, and don't know how to deal with it when sex isn't an option and masturbation only seems to make it worse (like it'll satisfy for a couple of minutes and then the urge comes back stronger than before). In response to these intense feeling of frustration I have the urge the get violent, to scream and to cry my cries out. I have been working out heaps (which does expend sex energy), but now I have discovered that my body is most likely producing more DHEA due to using more energy than I consume, and that it is probably making me more horny. I want to know how you guys managed to not only deal with been horny without going postal or spontaneously combusting, but also manage to play it cool around women in the hope of getting the sex. Obviously from my threads you know that although I have had sex a few times in the last few months, and a couple of those times were really good, I FAIL at getting a guy who is willing to make the money commitment to have sex on a regualr basis. Obviously having sex too quickly isn't helping me to get my needs met, having no strings sex isn't helping me get a regular serve, I am loath to have sex with many different men, but assuming I somehow find another guy how do I play it cool enough so I can get more than 1 or 2 go's. One guy I didn't mention on here I met 4months ago had sex with me twice and then wanted me to pay for it (seriously I am not cashed up enough to pay for a prostitute). Please just tell me how you survived.
Author Titania22 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 What? Pay for it? You are a women right? Yes, I am, and a pretty decent looking one at that (apparently but modern standards)
Nexus One Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 (edited) Why not create an online dating profile and mention you want to get your brains f*cked out every day, at least 3 times a day? Not sure what the outcome will be though and it could be risky, but it is an option. Turn the tables on them, tell it like it's "deal": "You pay for the date (in a public place), in return I'll let feast upon me." Or do you have a boyfriend? If so, then that might not be such a good idea. Edited February 27, 2011 by Nexus One
snug.bunny Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 As I am getting older I am getting so horny alot of the time, and don't know how to deal with it when sex isn't an option and masturbation only seems to make it worse (like it'll satisfy for a couple of minutes and then the urge comes back stronger than before). In response to these intense feeling of frustration I have the urge the get violent, to scream and to cry my cries out. I have been working out heaps (which does expend sex energy), but now I have discovered that my body is most likely producing more DHEA due to using more energy than I consume, and that it is probably making me more horny. I want to know how you guys managed to not only deal with been horny without going postal or spontaneously combusting, but also manage to play it cool around women in the hope of getting the sex. Obviously from my threads you know that although I have had sex a few times in the last few months, and a couple of those times were really good, I FAIL at getting a guy who is willing to make the money commitment to have sex on a regualr basis. Obviously having sex too quickly isn't helping me to get my needs met, having no strings sex isn't helping me get a regular serve, I am loath to have sex with many different men, but assuming I somehow find another guy how do I play it cool enough so I can get more than 1 or 2 go's. One guy I didn't mention on here I met 4months ago had sex with me twice and then wanted me to pay for it (seriously I am not cashed up enough to pay for a prostitute). Please just tell me how you survived.Hi Titania22. For me, my sexual peak increased after I turned 30. I am currently single, and my sexual thoughts are only on occasion, meaning I do not have an underlying urge to have immediate gratification. A woman's sexual appetite def increases as she gets older, but I think for most, it will reach a plateau and level out. If I may ask with regard to the intense feelings you mentioned, how would you describe the thoughts pertaining to violence? And, I am not sure I understand the "money commitment" statement...
MrNate Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Aww yes, the time in every woman's life when estrogen starts to take a backseat and testosterone becomes more prevalent. Now you know how a little men feel starting in their teen years Imagine if you had as much as we did! But aside from that, why not just go do the deed? I'm sure you could work something out, no?
Author Titania22 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Hi Titania22. For me, my sexual peak increased after I turned 30. I am currently single, and my sexual thoughts are only on occasion, meaning I do not have an underlying urge to have immediate gratification. A woman's sexual appetite def increases as she gets older, but I think for most, it will reach a plateau and level out. If I may ask with regard to the intense feelings you mentioned, how would you describe the thoughts pertaining to violence? And, I am not sure I understand the "money commitment" statement... My desire for sex first came at 27 and amped up really slowly over the last 11yrs and hasn't plateau'd yet. Now I have the urge really regularly with really horny peaks (where I just feel crazy for wanting) every couple of weeks. I don't do anything violent or anything, but I can picture myself going crazy with a machine gun killing everyone, or punching a wall, or just plain throwing a 2yr olds tantrum on the floor kicking and punching. Generally I would just put extra weights on my bar next time I do pump class, and exhaust myself so much that i have to sleep as soon as I get home. Plus I have taken up drinking. I don't even like alcohol. Could you please highlight the money/commitment statement I am not sure what you are referring to.
Author Titania22 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Aww yes, the time in every woman's life when estrogen starts to take a backseat and testosterone becomes more prevalent. Now you know how a little men feel starting in their teen years Imagine if you had as much as we did! But aside from that, why not just go do the deed? I'm sure you could work something out, no? I am not sure I can ever know what it was like for you, but I can be amazed that so many of you manage to live through it. I have some sort of an idea, and I son started getting very sexual from the age of 8. He was full on hitting on me all the time. It wasn't until that woman was arrested for having sex with her 14yr old son, that he backed off. And that was from 8 and testosterone level multiplies every year after that up to and during teen years. Let's just say, I have new appreciation for why guys drink, take drugs, punch walls, do extreme sports, etc.
J200 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I've always had a very high sex drive (even though I am a female) and usually spend around an hour each day watching porn after work and pleasuring myself.. I used to watch it waaaay more (like hours ever day) but since I'm exhausted by work and my schedule is tight I watch around an hr, sometimes more or less but I get like 5 orgasms each session. I'm 32 now so hornier than ever. I also have a FWB and I see him around once every three weeks. I consider myself very attractive (get rated 9 and 10 on hotornot etc) size 00 but since I am not friendly and have social anxiety it's is EXTREMELY hard for me to find a guy to have sex with me. I am not friendly so I give off bad vibes, always look pissed off, never smile and ever talk to strangers. I also don't really have any gf's so I have no one to go out with to meet men. So pretty much I just work, go home watch porn and masturbate and see my fbw every 2-3 weeks. It's not true that a hot woman can get a guy to have sex with her easily. Not if she has social anxiety, doesn't feel comfortable talking to people and has no friends.
snug.bunny Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 My desire for sex first came at 27 and amped up really slowly over the last 11yrs and hasn't plateau'd yet. Now I have the urge really regularly with really horny peaks (where I just feel crazy for wanting) every couple of weeks. I don't do anything violent or anything, but I can picture myself going crazy with a machine gun killing everyone, or punching a wall, or just plain throwing a 2yr olds tantrum on the floor kicking and punching. Generally I would just put extra weights on my bar next time I do pump class, and exhaust myself so much that i have to sleep as soon as I get home. Plus I have taken up drinking. I don't even like alcohol. Could you please highlight the money/commitment statement I am not sure what you are referring to. Maybe ease up on the intense physical work outs and shift to yoga or pilates? It's difficult for me to understand how much sex you need to feel satisfied based on what you wrote, but if it's been this way for 11 years and without knowing how many men you have been with within those 11 years, you can either (a) continue seeking out sexual encounters that may still never truly satisfy/fulfill you.....or (b) figure out the underlying cause of the thoughts/urges you are are experiencing, IF, this is something you are interested in doing. This was the statement you made which I did not understand...: Obviously from my threads you know that although I have had sex a few times in the last few months, and a couple of those times were really good, I FAIL at getting a guy who is willing to make the money commitment to have sex on a regualr basis.
Author Titania22 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 if it's been this way for 11 years It hasn't been this way for 11yrs, i never wanted sex before 27, and then as of then i got the first urge, it has been a very slow and steady amping up, even now I feel that i would be incredibly satisfied only having sex 3 times a week, nothing like what J200 has gone through. But I have a strong aversion to ONS with strangers. So yeah, I probably could go to a bar and score, but the idea repulses me so far.
Author Titania22 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 I FAIL at getting a guy who is willing to make the money commitment to have sex on a regualr basis. A freudian slip, I meant time commitment.
J200 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 if it's been this way for 11 years and without knowing how many men you have been with within those 11 years, you can either (a) continue seeking out sexual encounters that may still never truly satisfy/fulfill you.....or (b) figure out the underlying cause of the thoughts/urges you are are experiencing, IF, this is something you are interested in doing. This was the statement you made which I did not understand...: It's NORMAL for women to be extremely horny and have a very high sex drive; why would someone need to seek "help" for it? I really think society makes it seem like a woman is extremely abnormal to want sex all the time when men feel this way every day; under pressure ready to explode from horniness. I think it's normal and human nature. I think OP just means that she wasn't able to find a guy who wanted to meet up regularly; they were probably just flakes. I have a high sex drive and masturbate for hours every day. However I don't have a lot of sex partners at all because I don't meet men due to being too shy and I have no girlfriends to go out with. I'm 32 and only had 5 sex partners my whole life (only three were intercourse, the other two we didn't go all the way). Sexual encounters would be fullfilling if she found someone who could do it right and satisfy her on a regular basis.
J200 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 It hasn't been this way for 11yrs, i never wanted sex before 27, and then as of then i got the first urge, it has been a very slow and steady amping up, even now I feel that i would be incredibly satisfied only having sex 3 times a week, nothing like what J200 has gone through. But I have a strong aversion to ONS with strangers. So yeah, I probably could go to a bar and score, but the idea repulses me so far. I would be fine having sex three times a week with a real man but since I don't, I'd rather please myself. It releases a lot of stress from work and having to interact/deal with people all day. Its an instant stress reliever.
Author Titania22 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 I watch around an hr, sometimes more or less but I get like 5 orgasms each session. I'm 32 now so hornier than ever. I also have a FWB and I see him around once every three weeks. That's incredible J200, maybe I need to masturbate more. I wonder if the extreme horniness contributes to the social anxiety at all. And thakyou for sharing. I feel like I am whining over nothing. However it doesn't feel like nothing to me. Maybe ease up on the intense physical work outs and shift to yoga or pilates? Funny you should say that. I have been doing pump on Mondays, Pilates on Wednesdays and Yin Yoga on Fridays. I was attempted to strengthen up so that one day I can do the Pole classes. The last couple of weeks, it is after the yin yoga classes that the real horniness takes hold.
snug.bunny Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 It's NORMAL for women to be extremely horny and have a very high sex drive; why would someone need to seek "help" for it? I really think society makes it seem like a woman is extremely abnormal to want sex all the time when men feel this way every day; under pressure ready to explode from horniness. I think it's normal and human nature. I think OP just means that she wasn't able to find a guy who wanted to meet up regularly; they were probably just flakes. I have a high sex drive and masturbate for hours every day. However I don't have a lot of sex partners at all because I don't meet men due to being too shy and I have no girlfriends to go out with. I'm 32 and only had 5 sex partners my whole life (only three were intercourse, the other two we didn't go all the way). Sexual encounters would be fullfilling if she found someone who could do it right and satisfy her on a regular basis. Perhaps, but a high sex drive in combination with "intense feeling of frustration I have the urge the get violent, to scream and to cry my cries out" is something to consider.... She also mentioned she believes her DHEA levels have increased, which may have something to do with it. Like I said, she can either continue seeking out sexual encounters that may/may not satisfy/fulfill her or (b) figure out the underlying cause of the thoughts/urges she is experiencing, IF, this is something she is interested in doing.
J200 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Also, personally I find the thought of having sex with a stranger extremely thrilling and exciting; however I don't have the "personality" to go for it. I am very passive and not talkative so i don't see how it would happen except online and that has only happened to me ONCE (my current fwb). I met my fwb online and he is the only guy I ever met online, on Craigslist actually. I'm very attractive so it's not true that there aren't any attractive and in shape women on CL. I was probably the only one though; the rest are all spam bots and prostitutes so he was lucky he got me.
Author Titania22 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Sexual encounters would be fullfilling if she found someone who could do it right and satisfy her on a regular basis. This is exactly it. Partly I think society puts so much pressure on people too. Most people are busier, and work harder. I don't blame guys for having too much on their plates, but I wish it wasn't true. So I can get if someone doesn't want to factor in lots of dates and outings into their routine, but it would be nice it they could factor in time for sex.
snug.bunny Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Funny you should say that. I have been doing pump on Mondays, Pilates on Wednesdays and Yin Yoga on Fridays. I was attempted to strengthen up so that one day I can do the Pole classes. The last couple of weeks, it is after the yin yoga classes that the real horniness takes hold. Oh. Well, maybe it's all the different positions in Yoga (i.e. downward dog position ) that makes you horny.
Author Titania22 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 I met my fwb online and he is the only guy I ever met online, Still it would be nice if he had time more than once every three weeks. The sex guy I found, has said he is busy atm, so I wonder if I am getting set up for a once every 3wks arrangement, or if he is doing the fade.
Nexus One Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I guess my idea was over the top? I don't do online dating, but I do know from these forums that people use those website to get their "needs" met. However I have no idea what kind of creeps that might attract. In that sense I find it a risky idea though.
Author Titania22 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 I guess my idea was over the top? I don't do online dating, but I do know from these forums that people use those website to get their "needs" met. However I have no idea what kind of creeps that might attract. In that sense I find it a risky idea though. Your idea freaked me out. I think advertising like that, is just going to draw in the freaks. I did take it to heart though I got online and sent a message to a guy pretty much stating the desire for sex, so we will see if he bites. I know one guy isn't sending out much, but I am still unsure that the frontal assault is the way to get good quality sex, and let's face it, bad sex isn't any more satisfying then masterbation, possibly less so.
J200 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I guess my idea was over the top? I don't do online dating, but I do know from these forums that people use those website to get their "needs" met. However I have no idea what kind of creeps that might attract. In that sense I find it a risky idea though. It is very freaky indeed. I really lucked out and found a nice respectful guy. He was a college student when he emailed me and he used his school e-mail to email me, which I googled; which helped me find out everything about him. From where he grew up to which sports he played back in high school to what activities he was into in college, his facebook; everything. When I first started talking to him through email everything he told me matched up so I felt safer. Only meet up with guys who email you with their real email address and google it. Plenty of times people will use the same handle for their email for forum message boards and if they do you can read everything they wrote etc. Only meet up with people when you can verify their identity and real name.
Nexus One Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 (edited) Your idea freaked me out. I think advertising like that, is just going to draw in the freaks. Yeah quite possibly, however I got the idea from your post that you were really desperate. So I wrote down the boldest thing I could come up with, short of standing naked alongside a road with a sign that says "f*ck me". LOL, sorry for this. Edited February 27, 2011 by Nexus One
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