Delacy Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I didn't really have contact with my ex for 3 years, is it ok to break it after this lenght of time?, even if you still have feelings but both our lives have changed?
Mixed28 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 What are you going to say and how long was the relationship? You still have feelings after 3 years? are you male or female?
Mcnulty Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 If you still have feelings??? God, Nooooo!!! Don't do it!! It's like opening a door to a war zone or circus full of evil clowns!!!
Author Delacy Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Because she has tried to contact me, not to get back together but to see how iam... but not even a phone call, just via email.
willowthewisp Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Well then it depends on whther you can handle it given you have feelings for her still. It may be that she is testing the water to see if there would be a chance of getting back together, but then again she may just wnat to be friends or just see how you are. How long were you two together?
Author Delacy Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Well then it depends on whther you can handle it given you have feelings for her still. It may be that she is testing the water to see if there would be a chance of getting back together, but then again she may just wnat to be friends or just see how you are. How long were you two together? We were together 5 years.
timchambo Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Delacy Assume she is happily married. Do you want to hear that?
willpower Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Delacy Assume she is happily married. Do you want to hear that? I'd advise contacting her. You still have feelings after 3 years so from your point of veiw you need closure one way or another. Lets assume she is married - now you have closure that its never going to happen and you can move on. Short term pain but long term mental health. Lets assume she's not with anyone, she may be contacting you to see if your single. It could be any place in between those 2 points. What it does tell you is that she is THINKING about you. Do you think about people you have no feelings for? Do you think about people you hate unless they are in your face? No. Contact her, it will at least give you closure one way or another. Just remember, your a legend, respect yourself massively and dont give your power away without her earning it.
willowthewisp Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 She may be married, but then if she were would she really be contacting her ex? How did you guys brake up? Is she maybe feeling guilty? Personally if it were me I would take the risk in case she wants to try again, I think the hurt would be worth it if i still had feelings. But that's me, maybe you don't want to be hurt again if it is not what you hope, which is understandable.
BelieveInUs Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Hi Willpower: You stated this statement "Short term pain but long term mental health." I find this statement very effective. FYI. Take care. Sincerely, BelieveInUs One of the Man
East7 Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Because she has tried to contact me, not to get back together but to see how iam... but not even a phone call, just via email. She will not tell you directly she is interested, it is normal to start it light then go further if you respond positively to her will to resume contact. It all depends: what do you want? If you want to resume the relationship, go for it. It depends why you guys broke up. If the factors of the break are always there it is not going to work a second time.
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