youaretheone Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I went on my first date with this shy girl. I am myself confident and blunt (not to be arrogant) and she is just the opposite. She is the type of girl that never initiates things. She does not initiate holding hands, kissing, touching but when I hold her hand or touch her hair, arms, leg, she responds positively which makes me beleive that she is interested. On the other hand, when I moved my face very close to hers as if I would kiss her, she blushed and pulled back like a little child. She also blushes quickly when I compliment her or say something nice. Wondering about it, I asked her if she considered herself as shy and she answered "Yes and I am afraid of some people." and then I say "All the people or certain types of reactions like when someone touches your face like I did?". She replies that the latter is correct and she is just afraid. It strange that sometimes she even appears not interested because of her fear or shyness. Back to the date, I tried to take things slow, physical contact with only hands and hair. At the end of the date, I hesitated to kiss her and landed a small peck near her lips. She constantly asked me what I was doing next week and if I had plans. I am not sure how to proceed. What can do to let things move on comfortably on both sides? I really enjoy my time with her. Your advice is appreicated.
Cee Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Remember that this was a first date and some people aren't comfortable with too much touching at first. I'm not shy and would never think of holding someone's hand or touching them on a first date. Usually, I'll give a hug and a peck if the date was really good. From what you say, she's interested. Ask her out again and maybe hold her hand for a bit, but don't do a lot of touching. She may need to trust that you like her to really open up. If she's okay with hand holding and you both had a good date, then she might be ready for a kiss. Or maybe not. But if the chemistry is right between you, the kiss will come at the right time, when both of you are ready. Have fun.
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