Els Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 (edited) If she set a boundary that excluded me from hanging out with an old friend, or celebrating the fact that he's getting married, she can set all the boundaries she wants. I would break them and go out with my old friend. The thing you need to understand is that it was her fault that she's insecure. The OP doesn't frequent strip clubs, or have a hooker problem, or some of the issues that many post about on here. He wanted to go out to a strip club, because his friend was there. What's so wrong with that? Pole dancing for a bunch of horny men is different from the OP's situation, where he wanted to talk with and celebrate an old friend's bachelor party. Girls get male strippers for their bachelorette parties, as well. Should I have a problem with a girl I'm marrying having one of those parties, too? You don't seem to get the point, which is that everyone's boundaries are different. And no one is more correct than the other. The pole dancing classes are typically conducted by women for women and are done dressed in gym clothes, by the way. What's so wrong with that? And EVEN if they were done nude for horny men, I'm sure the more inconsiderate people in the swinger community would call you insecure for not letting your gf do that. Don't you get my point? You are not the moral police. Noone is qualified to be. What is acceptable or not in a relationship can ONLY be dictated by the people in it and NOONE else. Edited February 28, 2011 by Elswyth
Allisha Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Stop playing yourself bro...u r laid up with ya mutt right now sneak dissing here on a forum online forum...u replying to everyones post on here bro..too much time on ya hands to be on here hating...u prob don't even got a mutt single ass loser...go get some p*sssy and get over loveshack being ya hobby playing dr.phil fam 1. Pot...kettle... 2. I don't think you're in any position to pass judgement. You've let your girlfriend dictate what you can and can't do. And the key word is in one of your other posts. She said she was going to "ALLOW" you to go. I'd be careful if I were you. Giving ultimatiums like she has is completely childish and because it's worked, she may see the potential to do it again and again. 3. Go back to school and learn how to type.
carhill Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 OP, are you and your GF going to your friend's wedding? BTW, now that the BP capitulation is done, how was the make-up sex?
sally4sara Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 Its just amazing that this guy can come to a mutually agreeable situation that has both his GF feeling more assured and him feeling proud of his choice and all the people with a mind for a power struggle got to pick at him over it. He said he wanted to show support for his buddy. He still gets to do that by being a part of a more meaningful occasion. This is a win win situation. You can tell who in this thread has never had a loving and working relationship by who is acting as though not staring at titties is a huge sacrifice and no one is worth missing out on it for. Sad sad sad. @Flyfishin, Its the strong willed people who can stick to their choices amidst the flack they get from others. Never forget that the people giving you crap over this are not the ones who will not be there for you in love. They are only looking to add others to their ranks BECAUSE without back up they cannot feel assured in their own choices. They need to see others blowing up chances at love for themselves to feel better about being alone. You looked at the situation and determined that going wouldn't improve your life and not going could bring improvement. Let the doubters make a mess of their opportunities. It will be you moving forward while they stay stuck in power struggles, empty associations, and lonely nights. If you do feel bad about not being a part of that lesser occasion, do something classy for your buddy and spring for a top shelf bottle to be brought to their table in your absence. Besides, the best pre wedding celebrations are the coed bachelor/bachelorette parties. I remember sitting at a table with my guy and the groom and a few others, each of us puffing on a Hemingway cigar watching the bride to be and two other girls bump and grind on the dance floor. No suspicions, no bad feelings, and everyone had a blast.
chrissylee Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 Oh please, if a guy can't go to a strip club and not end up banging some chick at the end. That is his fault not the tradition of bachelor parties at strip clubs. My bff likes male strip clubs . I can't stand them but I know for her baccalaureate party I will be the one booking them. If my SO at the time has a problem with it - well he better deal with it. If he doesn't trust me enough - he doesn't deserve. Same in this case . sigh I don't think it has anything to do trust or being secure in a relationship. I trust my SO to not sleep with strippers and I don't think he would leave me for one. I just find it disrespectful for either of us to go to a place like that. I have no desire to have any man dance naked for me but him, and I should be the only girl he wants to have dancing naked for him. Some people are ok with it, however the ones who aren't have just as much right to there opinon. Just because you don't agree with someone doesn't make them wrong with how they feel.
SmileFace Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 . Just because you don't agree with someone doesn't make them wrong with how they feel. Me? Where did I say this?
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