gkaplan000 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Recently my wife and I separated and we were doing an in house separation. On Monday night I found some emails between her and her ex boyfriend who is married. They were planning on meeting up to have sex!! I confronted her on this and she said that she is confused and horny, she didn't want to come to me for sex so we didn't get our feelings confused.. this is total BS!! I told her that if you are that horny to come to me or use a vibrator.. That committing adultery is not an option since we agreed to not have sex with anyone else. She promised me that she will never speak to him again and that if she has anymore needs sexual needs she will come see me. We had great sex that night! Wednesday night I came home and talked with her. I told her that I am tired of being the only one who is working to save our marriage. I am doing everything I can to save this marriage and she is our trying to have sex with an ex boyfriend. I told her that at one point we had a marriage people looked up to and we need to get that back. She has alot more to lose than I do. She is a SAHM in school full time. She agreed and told me we can end the separation and work on us. Since then things have been better. We are more loving towards each other, giving each other kisses and being more affectionate. She is still hesitant on telling me she loves me, but she has said it a few times. My question is how can she turn off the separation so quickly. Wednesday morning she was all about it and now this. I don't know if I can trust her or not. I don't know if I get over what almost happened with the exbf. I don't know if she is being real with me or not?
mark982 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 like you said, she has alot more to lose than you. she didn't turn off seperation, she just went deeper underground, watch your azz,cause this is far from over with her ex bf
Wilie Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Been there, done that. You better open your eyes, and think LONG and hard on what has happened, and what you want. Read the actions, not listen to the words. Good luck and keep posting, Will
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