Author singlelife Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 I think it's more like guys keep asking them out, so why would they want to do the work? Heck if women ask me out all the time, I'd stop too. I'll just sit around and look pretty, and wait for the next one to ask me. Interesting. Makes a lot of sense though.
phineas Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 On-topic, there's nothing like a nice, juicy, painful divorce to cure someone of rejection-phobia, not that I recommend it. Probably, in my case, dad screwed up not giving me the 'wimmin are b!tches' talk when I was young, letting me erroneously think women were like my mom. Seriously, I think your perspective is reasonable and healthy. *Appropriate* investment, based on compatibility and expressions, through action, of mutual interest and desire. If no joy, no prejudice and goodbye. I can verify the divorce thing. I went out with this woman for about a month. Things culminated with her & I kissing at my house & cuddling on the couch during a movie. (most women I meet eventually wind up doing this with me). Then she tried to friendzone me. I wanted romantic she didn't. seemed like a no-brainer to me. I stopped calling her. This was weeks ago. She called me today out of the blue. She felt the need to tell me one of her POF dates flaked on her tonight & asked if I wanted to hang out. She said she didn't want to commit to anyone or feel obligated to someone. ummm.... then why are you online dating? seriously? I told her I could do no-commitment & no obligation but not interested in platonic. she said "Then I guess i'll see you around". I didn't respond. LOL! I think I handled that rejection rather well.
Author singlelife Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 I can verify the divorce thing. I went out with this woman for about a month. Things culminated with her & I kissing at my house & cuddling on the couch during a movie. (most women I meet eventually wind up doing this with me). Then she tried to friendzone me. I wanted romantic she didn't. seemed like a no-brainer to me. I stopped calling her. This was weeks ago. She called me today out of the blue. She felt the need to tell me one of her POF dates flaked on her tonight & asked if I wanted to hang out. She said she didn't want to commit to anyone or feel obligated to someone. ummm.... then why are you online dating? seriously? I told her I could do no-commitment & no obligation but not interested in platonic. she said "Then I guess i'll see you around". I didn't respond. LOL! I think I handled that rejection rather well. yeah I would have done the same thing. Go hang out with the next guy.
TouchedByViolet Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I can verify the divorce thing. I went out with this woman for about a month. Things culminated with her & I kissing at my house & cuddling on the couch during a movie. (most women I meet eventually wind up doing this with me). Then she tried to friendzone me. I wanted romantic she didn't. seemed like a no-brainer to me. I stopped calling her. This was weeks ago. She called me today out of the blue. She felt the need to tell me one of her POF dates flaked on her tonight & asked if I wanted to hang out. She said she didn't want to commit to anyone or feel obligated to someone. ummm.... then why are you online dating? seriously? I told her I could do no-commitment & no obligation but not interested in platonic. she said "Then I guess i'll see you around". I didn't respond. LOL! I think I handled that rejection rather well. *High five* to you sir
Sanman Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I can verify the divorce thing. I went out with this woman for about a month. Things culminated with her & I kissing at my house & cuddling on the couch during a movie. (most women I meet eventually wind up doing this with me). Then she tried to friendzone me. I wanted romantic she didn't. seemed like a no-brainer to me. I stopped calling her. This was weeks ago. She called me today out of the blue. She felt the need to tell me one of her POF dates flaked on her tonight & asked if I wanted to hang out. She said she didn't want to commit to anyone or feel obligated to someone. ummm.... then why are you online dating? seriously? I told her I could do no-commitment & no obligation but not interested in platonic. she said "Then I guess i'll see you around". I didn't respond. LOL! I think I handled that rejection rather well. Well handled sir! Go after what you want and don't accept anything less. I often say the same thing to women and the reaction I get is hilarious. They always ask me why not. Simple...I have more friends than I have time to see already. I don't need anymore friends. I'm dating because I want a gf. As for the rest of this thread. I agree fishtaco (a rather common happenstance). Being social is the first step in getting women. After that you need to learn the social nuances of dating and that takes practice. Sometimes it means taking out a woman you may not see a future with and that is aright. MYMetFan, if you really can't get a date, I have a challenge for you. Dress nicely, put on some nice cologne, and spend the day out amongst people. Smile at every woman you see and say " Excuse me, hi there. My name is____. I think you're really cute and I wanted to get to know you better. Care to grab a cup of coffee sometime?" I come across at least 30 attractive women in any given day. If you can honestly tell me that you have accomplished that everyday for a week and not gotten a single date then I will feel sorry for you. If you can't do this, you need to put yourself out there more.
Author singlelife Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Girls I feel have no idea either when it comes to men. That's why they stress when they find one they feel is the one.
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