Xewkija Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Okay I don't want to make this long because I know many don't enjoy reading long stories. So heres the deal We been together for 5 years. She wanted a break and I gave it to her and she came back to me Before and during the break she became friends with someone at work and they got really close and he ended up kissing her and she says she pushed her away and this other guy has a girlfriend of 2 years. She says that she doesnt have any feelings for him anymore and she seems like (well she says at least) that she wants to be with me and she knows she wants to be with me. HOWEVER her and I use to play xbox live all the time but now when I go over her house she is playing with him and whenever I speak she mutes the microphone so he doesn't hear I guess. I already told her I feel like I don't exist when I'm around and when she's playing with him and told her it would be nice if you made an effort that I was here. So she kinda made an effort but holding me and giving me a kiss and she said if I wanted to play with her and him and I said sure. When we did all play she talks to him instead of me and has these headphones on that block out all other noises so she can't even hear me. When their not playing together their texting ALL the time. He calls her every morning to tell her to play. I just don't get like why she doesn't want to say nice things to me while their playing together and she doesn't want him hearing, it would make me feel much more appreciated. she tells me she is just friends but I feel like theirs a friendship level and then a step above that. Their always keeping in touch. I mean she does tell him "I'm with my boyfriend" but we don't even act like were a couple, it's like she's afraid she's going to hurt his feelings. I know if this was vice versa she would be acting like I am maybe worse... a girl kissing me... knowing she wants to have sex with me... and being friends with her and playing games... So LS, am I over reacting? Their playing together as I type right now and she knows I'm playing the same game but she doesn't even invite me or anything.
Rose T Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 No, you are not overreacting and no, it's not ok. She overstepped the mark with this guy and she is now being really disrespectful towards you. They kissed, right? There was a "fling". So the only way your relationship could move forward is if she cuts him out the picture altogether. Sadly, it sounds like she doesn't want to do that and I suspect she knows exactly what game she's playing. You have to stand up to her and tell her that her friendship with this guy has to end, or you're walking out. I know you really want her and it feels like giving up, but you cannot stay in this compromise. She's not treating you right. If you have the courage to just walk away and say that you don't actually believe in this relationship any more, even better. It's time to stand up for yourself - you'd be better alone than putting up with this.
Author Xewkija Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Thank you for your response and honesty, unfortunately I do love her a lot just to walk away from it but it is really bothering me but I know she won't be able to cut out all communication because they work together. I can say that it's definitely making me feel more distant to her and having second thoughts I wish I can go into her mind and see what shes really thinking. You know where Malta is? Im asking cause your from Italy
Distant78 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Thank you for your response and honesty, unfortunately I do love her a lot just to walk away from it but it is really bothering me but I know she won't be able to cut out all communication because they work together. I can say that it's definitely making me feel more distant to her and having second thoughts I wish I can go into her mind and see what shes really thinking. You know where Malta is? Im asking cause your from Italy Yea you gotta leave her. She's an idiot.
Tayla Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Be direct with her . Put away the xbox and concentrate on other enjoyable things you can do together. Invite her somewhere: Concert, dinner, movie, evening walk. Find a neutral environment that gives you both the opportunity to simply be with one another. Your instincts are dead on about her other friend. Its not healthy. She is disrespecting your time when you do seek it with her. Its your turn to do what is best for you .....
Rose T Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 You know where Malta is? Im asking cause your from Italy Yey! Are you in Malta? they have lots of hot chicks there, don't they?
Author Xewkija Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Yey! Are you in Malta? they have lots of hot chicks there, don't they? HA! I wish I was in Malta... I'm Maltese though but I live in the states and yes their are plenty of beautiful ladies their. Wish I could go back.
huskers11 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I don't know if I'd say there is anything going on between them but it is rather disrespectful the way she ignores you and doesn't take your feelings into consideration! You have every right to be upset with this type of mistreatement! I'm sure you have, but all you can do is talk to her about it! If she doesn't change, then she really isn't worth it! You deserve someone who makes you a priority in their life and this girl doesn't seem to be doing that when this other man is around! Never settle for someone how isn't willing to treat you how you deserve to be treated! I hope it works out for you!
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