cj2 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 (edited) My original break-up story is here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t256576/ So today I was sorting out a few old bits and pieces and I realised something. The baby that was aborted in our relationship, my ex had a photo of the scan. It might sound weird but I wanted a copy, for memories sake. I didn't want to ask her, but I remembered at the time she had joined a forum and put a picture up. So I looked up her usual online username and went on the hunt. I found it, but I also found this http://community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a2176945/please_help_me... I just don't know what to say. I am literally so angrry at her that I can't begin to describe what I'm feeling. I've spent the last 2 years living a lie, basically. Edited February 26, 2011 by cj2
Rose T Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Cj2 that's awful, I really feel for you. I'm so sorry you had to discover it like that. All I can say is, your relationship with that person is over, any more hurt or hate you pour on them is like throwing stuff into a black hole. It won't make you feel better and it won't change anything. Try and find peace if you can, and keep looking forward. Take care.
Author cj2 Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 The second link isn't in full anymore as I just called my ex out on it over email and she has since deleted her post. It basically said that she cheated on me 5 days before she came home from Australia and wasn't sure if the baby was actually mine.
willowthewisp Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 So she cheated on you, didn't know if the baby was yours, led you to beleive it was yours, put you through an abortion believing it was your child and then stayed with you another two years? What a b****. I hope you know you are better off without her? If it were me, I would tell her I know jsut what she is now and I am glad she is gone from my life, because had you known this before YOU would have thrown her away like the trash that she is.
Distant78 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 The second link isn't in full anymore as I just called my ex out on it over email and she has since deleted her post. It basically said that she cheated on me 5 days before she came home from Australia and wasn't sure if the baby was actually mine. You'll be okay. It's a shock to you so it's going to take a while for you to cope with this. Just be glad you're not with someone like her. There's someone else out there for you. Forget the tramp.
willowthewisp Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Oh I bet she deleted it, don't worry I managed to figure it out without it being there, maybe you should send the link to all her family and friends, show them what she really is! Better still, go back on your computer history, bet the orginal is still accessabale then copy and paste it into an email and send to everyone she knows.
Author cj2 Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 I'm still a shellshocked. This was her reply to me: "I won't lie to you. Something did happen, and no it wasn't Chris. I'm not going to make excuses, but I don't remember exactly what happened that night, which is why I didn't say anything to you. I can't tell you exactly whether there was sex, because I don't know, so I assumed. Which is why I asked that particular question. I know now from the dates that it was yours. I know I wasn't honest with you, and I am sorry for that, but it was not done in the way you see it right now." She doesn't even seem that bothered. I'm not going to tell her friends or family, because I don't want to lower myself to that level. But at least now I can realise that this break-up wasn't bad, it was the best thing to ever happen to me and I can count my blessings that it happened when it did.
willowthewisp Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I'm still a shellshocked. This was her reply to me: "I won't lie to you. Something did happen, and no it wasn't Chris. I'm not going to make excuses, but I don't remember exactly what happened that night, which is why I didn't say anything to you. I can't tell you exactly whether there was sex, because I don't know, so I assumed. Which is why I asked that particular question. I know now from the dates that it was yours. I know I wasn't honest with you, and I am sorry for that, but it was not done in the way you see it right now." She doesn't even seem that bothered. I'm not going to tell her friends or family, because I don't want to lower myself to that level. But at least now I can realise that this break-up wasn't bad, it was the best thing to ever happen to me and I can count my blessings that it happened when it did. Good for you cj2, I think that is very wise and mature not to tell everyone, I'm just very angry right now with my ex and finding it hard not to lash out, that probably wasn't the best advice to offer you, I'm sorry. You are absolutely right though, you dodged a bullet, if she was capable of that, lying like that to you and even now, even after she is found out she cares more about justifying her actions than your feelings, I note she did not call you to explain! Anyone with an shred of decency would have called immediately to explain, but then she has no decency because she wouldn't have lied like she did in the first place. There are women out there that would never treat you this way. I was faithful to my ex for the whole 20 years we were together, some people just aren't capable of love.
K.K. Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I'm surprised she even replied. Seems like a heartless, gutless, little spineless bitch. This is how people end up on Maury Povich..."Who be my baby daddy!?" You lucked out SO much getting away from her. This probably hurts like hell right now but man.. what a relief to know almost. No putting her up on a pedestal. Hang in there.
timchambo Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:uLSbbUYRpywJ:community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a2176945/please_help_me...+http://community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a2176945/please_help_me&cd=1&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us&source=www.google.com For those interested in her original post. Not sure how long it will last.
Distant78 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 I'm still a shellshocked. This was her reply to me: "I won't lie to you. Something did happen, and no it wasn't Chris. I'm not going to make excuses, but I don't remember exactly what happened that night, which is why I didn't say anything to you. I can't tell you exactly whether there was sex, because I don't know, so I assumed. Which is why I asked that particular question. I know now from the dates that it was yours. I know I wasn't honest with you, and I am sorry for that, but it was not done in the way you see it right now." She doesn't even seem that bothered. I'm not going to tell her friends or family, because I don't want to lower myself to that level. But at least now I can realise that this break-up wasn't bad, it was the best thing to ever happen to me and I can count my blessings that it happened when it did. I'm very sorry for what you're going through. I'm very honest, I almost cried reading this. I've been in your spot before with my ex-wife. She was very heartless also. That's how cheaters are. To hide their guilt they become cold to their betrayed partner. Don't worry man. Grieve over this as much as you can. Get it all out of your system. Mourn over what happened because it will play a pivotal part in your healing process. When this is all over that whore will be nothing but a thing in the past. And in due time she'll receive her karma. Just hang on. Recovery will be hard but you will get through it, and you'll be stronger because you've learned from this experience. Just remember who you are and be true to yourself. Very sorry.
bl22 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 it amazes me what some people are capable of these days. Im very sorry to read this, but in time you'll look back on her and laugh in disgust at how pathetic this person was and how you are truly glad theyre gone.
bl22 Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 btw, that reply she gave was COLD. It actually sort of reminded me of the replies my ex gave me after she broke up with me. Very short sentances almost like you can hear them speaking it in a slightly pissed off voice.
Author cj2 Posted February 27, 2011 Author Posted February 27, 2011 Thanks for your replies people, I am feeling somewhat better now, although after this ordeal I think I will be booking myself into a therapist sometime soon! I still can't believe I found out this way, after all this time. The truth really does come out in the end huh!
xpaperxcutx Posted February 27, 2011 Posted February 27, 2011 Thanks for your replies people, I am feeling somewhat better now, although after this ordeal I think I will be booking myself into a therapist sometime soon! I still can't believe I found out this way, after all this time. The truth really does come out in the end huh! Therapy is the corrective step especially since a situation like this tend to elicit anger sooner or later. You have to come to terms with her betrayal, you own it to yourself to find a way to move on from this. Be glad the ex is out of your life.
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