2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Hi This is just a quick ask, talking to a gal online the other night, say about 3 or 4 msgs each way, seem to be getting on good, my final msg I say got to go, nice talking (it was late on and I had work next day) so I said let me know your email or msn and we can catch up later. So she never responded, ok there's no law against it but she never got back for 2 days and just said hi again how are you without any reference to my request to get her email or MSN. Am I reading too much into this, maybe she doesn't feel comfortable giving out her email yet so that is fine with me but just wondering if that is why she never got back cause she didn't want to say no wont give out my email yet? Should I mention it in my reply? 2011
SmileFace Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I say you should mention it. You want to branch off from only contacting her on the site ,right?
Author 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 I say you should mention it. You want to branch off from only contacting her on the site ,right? Correct. I'm starting to have doubts already cause my ex was like this, would ignore anything she didn't want to talk about or do and then sort of change the subject. Instead she could have said I don't mind giving it out after speaking with you some more but not right now. That would have been fine I would have known where I stood. 2011
SmileFace Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Yeah ,just ask her. Her next reponse will let you know where you stand with her. Good luck
Author 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 Yeah ,just ask her. Her next reponse will let you know where you stand with her. Good luck I will....but not just yet I'm wondering if she thought I would chase her saying heh why did you not respond and that crap, but I didn't I just ignored it. Thanks for help anyways 2011
january2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I suggest asking again after a few more messages - when there's an opportune moment in the conversation rather than at the end. When you ask, keep it light-hearted and casual. Remember that she doesn't have to give it to you, nor does she owe you an explanation. If she doesn't give it to you, then accept that as a sign that things aren't going to go anywhere with this girl - at least not at the pace that you want it to. She may just prefer to chat online. If you want more then you may wish to engage with someone else who is more open and willing to move the conversation to email at an earlier stage.
Author 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 I suggest asking again after a few more messages - when there's an opportune moment in the conversation rather than at the end. When you ask, keep it light-hearted and casual. Remember that she doesn't have to give it to you, nor does she owe you an explanation. If she doesn't give it to you, then accept that as a sign that things aren't going to go anywhere with this girl - at least not at the pace that you want it to. She may just prefer to chat online. If you want more then you may wish to engage with someone else who is more open and willing to move the conversation to email at an earlier stage. I agree she doesn't have to give it to me and I respect that totally but on the other hand this is where I have trouble, I think if I just keep chatting they'll think that's all I want is to chat Idk but then don't want to come across as moving things too fast. Mind you if I had email I would just be saying the same things as I would to her online! 2011
january2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I agree she doesn't have to give it to me and I respect that totally but on the other hand this is where I have trouble, I think if I just keep chatting they'll think that's all I want is to chat Idk but then don't want to come across as moving things too fast. Mind you if I had email I would just be saying the same things as I would to her online! 2011 I agree that it's a fine line and very dependent on the other person and the dynamic between the two of you when you chat. However, I think that some people are very upfront about what they want very early in the interaction because they've had too many experiences of online conversations that didn't go anywhere. Of course, if that's what you both want, to be online friends only, then that's fine. Do you know what you want and what she wants? If being honest scares her away then she may not be the right girl for you or if she keeps making excuses or ignoring parts of the conversation then that's just going to lead to more frustration for you. I suggest striking up a conversation with someone else as well so that you're not putting all your energy into this girl. Then if the conversation dies, at least you're still putting yourself out there.
jane100 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I agree - a couple more messages - then ask again. If its not forthcoming, then I just wouldn't bother responding or writing to her again, in particular if she ignores your question a second time ... I've done it after just a few messages - I personally like it if a man asks for my email because it seems to suggest a stronger interest (though I may be wrong ?) After all, its just a message inbox offsite, nothing spectacularly personal.
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