Flowerzzz Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Hi everyone. I have been lurking some time now...I need some advice about tonight...please. So, I was with my ex for 3 years. We lived together, I thought we would get married, I loved the hell outta him. We grew so much together. BUT! I was his only real girl friend ever. He is very very shy and he has performance anxiety to an extreme. I was 26 and he was 23 when we got together. He broke up with me in September. He went crazy. I tried to help him (as always) but it just did not work. I was trying be friends with him and help him cope with him breaking up with me! He wanted to remain friends because we were best friends. Gah! It was too much. The final straw was that he and my "friend" started hanging out/dating. Of course, I understand him wanting to experience other girls, etc. But I did not understand that it would be with a friend of mine. I have been no contact since the day he told me--47 days ago. I have not seen him at all, I deleted/blocked him (and her) from facebook, everything. Sorry this is getting long. So, tonight I am going out with friends to see a band play and they will probably want to go see another band play after the first band. The problem is, the second band is my ex's band. I would love to go out because I am looking rather good after exercising like a fiend for the last 47 days. But I do not want to blow my goal of 2 mts of no contact. It sucks because I want to continue the party with my friends instead of going home after the first band!!! But SHE will be there, stirring up drama probably and HE will be drumming...What do ya'll think??? Should I just go home and keep my eye on the prize of 60 days no contact? Or do I go have fun, look good, and flirt up a storm??? Thanks you guys.
2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I would say go and enjoy yourself, this is for you isn't it are you going to have a boring night but let them enjoy themselves, just go dolled up to the nines looking superhot and you'll have him green with envy, pity you didn't have a guy friend to tag along with you - do you? 2011
Author Flowerzzz Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 Well, I will be out with a few girls friends and a couple of guy friends. I thought about contacting the guy my ex's rebound-girl dumped to be with my ex. He is an old friend and I know he was hurt by her actions just as I was hurt by her & my ex's selfish actions. It would be nice to go to the bar and sit with the old friend who was dumped because I know he has not been going out either. It is a very small town. We all know each other. So maybe I will go out and stay for my ex's band! I just won't acknowledge his existence! I wrote on here and was itching to go out because today I tried on my jeans from when I was 22 and they fit!!! (I am 30 now).
Movingthrough Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I almost want to say dont do it, just because seeing him could hurt your progress even if you dont think it will.....the other side of me though says dont base your time off of him, if you want to have a good time then go do it, plain and simple. I would be cautious though because seeing him, being around him or her, may not feel too great.
Author Flowerzzz Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 Yeah, I see it both ways too. Maybe I should just go see the one band and not go see his band because I don't wanna blow the 2 mts of absolutely no contact. Plus I was just sitting here looking at facebook--seeing all the happy pictures of couples, people who are engaged, and people married with kids. It just made me really sad because I am 30 and still alone. I think I am so cool, sweet, and awesome. I just don't know what the deal is! I have always been behind everyone my entire life and I have always been alone and then I meet the one guy I would marry and he breaks my f'ing heart!!!! I wasted 3 years on his ass and I hate it! yeah, I am not ready to see either one of them. gawd.
2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Plus I was just sitting here looking at facebook--seeing all the happy pictures of couples, people who are engaged, and people married with kids. It just made me really sad because I am 30 and still alone. I think I am so cool, sweet, and awesome. I just don't know what the deal is! I have always been behind everyone my entire life and I have always been alone and then I meet the one guy I would marry and he breaks my f'ing heart!!!! I wasted 3 years on his ass and I hate it! yeah, I am not ready to see either one of them. gawd. Flowerzz i'm the same, everyone seems to be married, kids and here's me mid-30s and in alonesville once again feeling like ****. Women always can't understand how i'm still single, i'm tall, good looking, good career good to get on with and all the rest don't know what is planned for me lol! 2011
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