9Lives Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 THIS IS NOT A WOMAN BASHING THREAD.....THIS IS NOT A BASHING WOMEN THREAD...THIS IS NOT A BASHING WOMEN THREAD. If you want to do that...please dont respond. Im trying to get understanding here. This is for the mature grown woman and men who want to talk about sex on dates and how that effects your relationships going forward. It seems like sex is so so so important these days that people who dont even know each other will just sleep with someone within a couple of hours of knowing each other. Is that good? I know for a man, it just pure physical. I know for a woman, at first it is probably the same. I just cant wrap my head around it for some reason. Does doing this so fast kinda ruin the chances of a relationship with that person? Doesnt it make a man question you in the future? Im not saying you ARE LOOKING for a relationship with that person. Im just saying if you would one day, this just seems like a bad start. I just dont get it. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE SEX. But my mind cant understand why I would just sleep with someone on the first date especially if Im dating around to meet someone who I really would like to be with. How does this work?
TaurusTerp Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 THIS IS NOT A WOMAN BASHING THREAD.....THIS IS NOT A BASHING WOMEN THREAD...THIS IS NOT A BASHING WOMEN THREAD. If you want to do that...please dont respond. Im trying to get understanding here. This is for the mature grown woman and men who want to talk about sex on dates and how that effects your relationships going forward. It seems like sex is so so so important these days that people who dont even know each other will just sleep with someone within a couple of hours of knowing each other. Is that good? I know for a man, it just pure physical. I know for a woman, at first it is probably the same. I just cant wrap my head around it for some reason. Does doing this so fast kinda ruin the chances of a relationship with that person? Doesnt it make a man question you in the future? Im not saying you ARE LOOKING for a relationship with that person. Im just saying if you would one day, this just seems like a bad start. I just dont get it. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE SEX. But my mind cant understand why I would just sleep with someone on the first date especially if Im dating around to meet someone who I really would like to be with. How does this work? It will ruin the chances of a relationship with some men, it will strengthen the chances with others, and it will be irrelevant for still other men. Women need to stop following recipes for dating like A leads to B automatically.
sally4sara Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Well I've been told this doesn't really count, but I had sex with my husband on our first date. The reason why I get told this doesn't really count is I'd known him for a good while before our first date. I think it can be problematic though, if you don't know them very much at all and you rush into things. It would be awkward maybe? You act in the moment and then afterward realize neither of you know each other well enough to know what the moment meant to each other. I think there is a high likelihood for both to start second guessing the chemistry that had them tumbling in to bed on the first night. What could have been a wonderful sign of compatibility and attraction ends up feeling seedy and cheap in the light of day. Its like two people taking some drug together, enjoying the high, but realizing after they came down how reckless their actions were and wanting to distance themselves from the situation entirely.
denise_xo Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 It will ruin the chances of a relationship with some men, it will strengthen the chances with others, and it will be irrelevant for still other men. Women need to stop following recipes for dating like A leads to B automatically. Amen. I'm now in a relationship, but if I were dating I might sleep with a guy on the first date, and I might not. Fully dependent on the man and situation.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I'd still date a woman, and have fun with her, if she slept with me on the first date. I probably wouldn't have it in my head to be with her LTR wise though.
LondonS Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 My thoughts are, whats the rush to have sex on the first date, why not just play safe until you know someone better....
somedude81 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Knowing one person for a short while is the one situation where I'd be OK with first date sex. Preferably I'd like to know a woman for at least a few weeks before sex happens. That time frame should allow several occasions to talk and get to know each other in a non date setting. The other way is to meet a new woman, ask her on a date, then get to know her over the span of a few dates. Then possibly go for sex.
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