Would you do it?

[Cora]

If you had the choice to erase the memory completely of the one who left you, would you do it? Kind of like in that movie "Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind."

 

I've been thinking about this because it hurts so much remembering all of our good times together, wondering why he left me and why he chose not to say goodbye? How suddenly he has this new girlfriend and has completely forgotten about me....now making new memories with her. The pain is just unreal. On one hand I'd love to be able to erase the memory of ever knowing him because then all this pain would just disappear. But on the other hand, the thought of erasing him completely from my mind scares me and makes me so sad. It's almost as if that would hurt me even more.

 

Funny how memories can bring you so much joy and yet be so painful all at the same time.

[TaraMaiden]

Joy is freedom.

Pain is self-inflicted.

If a memory is joyous, it is you who hangs the pain on it.

Do not lament what is past and lost, because it is what has brought you to this moment.

Instead, be glad that you experienced it. You, and nobody else, had that moment. It's yours, and yours alone, to cherish.

 

Why tarnish it by being bitter?

 

What purpose does that serve you?

Is it a useful avenue to follow?

 

Would you venture down a clear path in the woods, flanked by bluebells, or would you go for the one obscured by nettles and brambles?

 

By choice?

 

So, why are you sabotaging your memories?

[Graceful]

I don't subscribe to this sort of thinking, either. I would not turn myself over to some mysterious source that would erase anything from my mind. Why would I do that? I have the strength and will to move forward and put my past in proper perspective, memories and all. You'd be surprised that over time, some memories will fade on their own, painful memories as well as happy memories. I would not erase any of my personal history. We're all who we are today based on what happened yesterday. If yesterday wasn't so hot, or even if it was a mistake, there's a lesson in it for me, if I want to take the time to learn from it.