SarcasticBlonde Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Sometimes I don't feel like I deserve him. He is so wonderful to me and I admire so much about him that I feel like one day he will wake up and realize he can do better. I know this has to do with me not having high self esteem and a past of dating men that were no good for me. How can I get past this feeling?
Woggle Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Realize that he chose you for a good reason and start seeing in yourself what he sees in you.
Nexus One Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Sometimes I don't feel like I deserve him. He is so wonderful to me and I admire so much about him that I feel like one day he will wake up and realize he can do better. I know this has to do with me not having high self esteem and a past of dating men that were no good for me. How can I get past this feeling? Just think: "For as long as it lasts." Because it's very well possible that a relationship ends. If you fill the time you have together with worrying, then you're going to miss the point of it, which is enjoying it. Hence accept that it might end one day, but until that day you enjoy it without thinking about tomorrow, hence: "For as long as it lasts."
Jannah Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Sometimes I don't feel like I deserve him. He is so wonderful to me and I admire so much about him that I feel like one day he will wake up and realize he can do better. I know this has to do with me not having high self esteem and a past of dating men that were no good for me. How can I get past this feeling? You would have to find some examples, in which you felt that you were not good enough for your boyfriend, in order to pin point where the insecurity stems from.
Author SarcasticBlonde Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 Just think: "For as long as it lasts." Because it's very well possible that a relationship ends. If you fill the time you have together with worrying, then you're going to miss the point of it, which is enjoying it. Hence accept that it might end one day, but until that day you enjoy it without thinking about tomorrow, hence: "For as long as it lasts." I don't think it will end. We are moving in together next month. He is very open that he wants to have a future together and I have never had that before. I love that he sees a future with me. But I'm so used to being treated poorly that it scares me
Author SarcasticBlonde Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 You would have to find some examples, in which you felt that you were not good enough for your boyfriend, in order to pin point where the insecurity stems from. Examples? Well he is highly intelligent, has a great career, extremely patient anf generous. He's not perfect, I'm not saying that. But he is definately the best man I have ever met.
Author SarcasticBlonde Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 Realize that he can do better, and go live in the alps with buddhist monks. Shave your head, learn martial arts and save world from evil oppressive warlord fung sheng. WATTA WATTA WIN Why are tools like this allowed to post?
Nexus One Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I don't think it will end. We are moving in together next month. He is very open that he wants to have a future together and I have never had that before. I love that he sees a future with me. You say you don't think it will end, yet you feel he might realize he could do better. Just give it a try: "For as long as it lasts". But I'm so used to being treated poorly that it scares me He's not your ex's. I understand that you anticipate the worst if you have bad experiences, but you shouldn't project that on him if he hasn't demonstrated similar behavior.
Woggle Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Examples? Well he is highly intelligent, has a great career, extremely patient anf generous. He's not perfect, I'm not saying that. But he is definately the best man I have ever met. Be glad you found somebody like that. You deserve it and don't let the exes who mistreated you hold so much power over your life.
Jannah Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Examples? Well he is highly intelligent, has a great career, extremely patient anf generous. He's not perfect, I'm not saying that. But he is definately the best man I have ever met. lol, no. By examples, I meant interactions between you and your boyfriend, where you may have felt not good enough. Or, do you find yourself in situations where you just start to have negative thoughts randomly, with no prompting?
Author SarcasticBlonde Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 You say you don't think it will end, yet you feel he might realize he could do better. Just give it a try: "For as long as it lasts". He's not your ex's. I understand that you anticipate the worst if you have bad experiences, but you shouldn't project that on him if he hasn't demonstrated similar behavior. I know. I want to get over the past.
Jannah Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 You are inferior Stop that or else I will blow your cover.
Author SarcasticBlonde Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 lol, no. By examples, I meant interactions between you and your boyfriend, where you may have felt not good enough. Or, do you find yourself in situations where you just start to have negative thoughts randomly, with no prompting? Haven't had any interactions that caused me to feel that way. He is constantly supportive and caring towards me.
Author SarcasticBlonde Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 Stop that or else I will blow your cover. He doesn't have anything else to do in a Friday night I suppose..
Jannah Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 He doesn't have anything else to do in a Friday night I suppose.. I suppose.....
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