turokturok5 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 After she dumped me i rang her and told her i was cool with it. I rang her again later and asked if i could talk to her, she said sure. After planning what to say to her for hours i went to her house and she came outside. I poured my heart out for atleast 5 minutes and gave her a picture of us holding eachother at a party and looking really happy. (Her response to the picture was..."you were pretty drunk") But she took it with her inside anyway, im assuming she may have just thrown it away. After i talked to her, i sent her a message on facebook which was pretty much exactly what i said, but saying "just in-case you want to re-think your descision" It was all said out of desperation and i feel like the biggest loser saying that, let alone sending exactly what i said to her in a message. Stuff like "im sorry it was my fault, ill always love you and be here for you, all couples have problems but when they overcome them it makes them stronger, think of all the good times we had and all the bad times we had, the good times out-weigh the bad times, listen to your heart and you'll make the right descision" As you can probably see, i was pretty desperate. Do you think this has ruined any chances i had, i mean, i've been NC for 2-3 weeks so if she starts to miss me, all she has to do is look at this message and think wow...how clingy is he.
ally21 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I really think it depends on the girl, but speaking from my own experience... If you go all hot like you did, and then back off... It really messes with our heads. My girl friends and I all hate it when a guy will be desperate one minute, and then not care about us the next. Don't be a jerk about it, but when you pretend to not need her, or want her... it really makes her think about you. It makes her wonder what you are doing, and why all of a sudden the change of heart. Give it a week or so of NC. See if she talks to you. Seriously. GL. (P.S. This is if the break up was recent. If it has been a bit, I'd give it a little more time than a week. Also, try to focus on the reasons she did dump you... or else, even if you got back together, nothing would change...and you'll be going through a vicious cycle of making/breaking up.)
Author turokturok5 Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 I really think it depends on the girl, but speaking from my own experience... If you go all hot like you did, and then back off... It really messes with our heads. My girl friends and I all hate it when a guy will be desperate one minute, and then not care about us the next. Don't be a jerk about it, but when you pretend to not need her, or want her... it really makes her think about you. It makes her wonder what you are doing, and why all of a sudden the change of heart. Give it a week or so of NC. See if she talks to you. Seriously. GL. (P.S. This is if the break up was recent. If it has been a bit, I'd give it a little more time than a week. Also, try to focus on the reasons she did dump you... or else, even if you got back together, nothing would change...and you'll be going through a vicious cycle of making/breaking up.) hey, thank you for the input. We've been broken-up for about 3 and 1/2 weeks, 2 weeks of that has been NC and she hasnt tried to contact me, but i have seen her a few times this week due to uni orientation and mutual friends. The first time she saw me she seemed fine, was talking to me a bit, was hard for me though because i was trying to avoid her, next time i was with her friend, we invited her to come with us but she said no and when we bumped into her she seemed really angry when she saw us together, despite the fact that her friend asked her if it was okay for her to go with me, and we invited her to come with us! what do i make of this?
ally21 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 It really depends on the reason she broke up with you... Girls are naturally jealous. I know that I broke up with my ex fiance, and it still hurts to think of him with other girls right now. It doesn't matter, friends, or not... the realization of it is that they're not you. Breakups are confusing for both parties, regardless. They mean ceasing to be...and seeing you with one of her girl friends is hard because the friend is still apart of your life, while she isn't. Give her the silent treatment for about a week. If you have FB, try not took at her stuff - as hard as this is, I KNOW! You have to have a level head, and seeing her stuff will make you react. Post your own stuff showing that you have a life outside of her. That's what my ex is doing right now, and it's working!! lol.
9Lives Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 When someone leaves you, the BEST thing to do is not try to get them to stay. It has to be done on their own. No effort from you. I dont think you were doing too much at this point but anything more and she is going to run like hell. Breakup sucks but if that person decides to walk away, the best thing to do is let them. Your not the only one. I asked my ex why was he talking to me and he said he missed talking and seeing me. I told him I cant do this so I wont be communicating anymore. He understood. People respect you when you just respect what they say they want. They respect you even more when you prevent them from making a fool out of you. Let her go on. FB is not your friend and if you want to get into obssession and checking her page then keep the page. If you want to unfriend her before she unfriend you...you will put something on her mind. Just go away. If someone really cared about you, even if they broke up with you, they will look back. You just have to make sure once again, you are in the same page. Ex come back for friendship...making up....or just a fk! Cover yourself.
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