tincanman99 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 It appears a younger woman at my gym has taken a liking to me. Every chance she gets she chats me up. She is a trainer and has a great disposition (and body for that matter). It started with me just being friendly and saying hi to her. Over the last few weeks she has become increasing aggressive. I had been teasing her about her some big blocky rings that she wears (its like a big blue or yellow cube) and last night she told me that her ring matched my shirt. Last night when I was stretching she came over to talk with me and today when I was stretching again she came over and sat next to me on the floor to talk with me while I was doing it. Told me that she was going to a Cuban restaurant that served sangria. Than I told her I make a killer sangria and she was teasing me that I have to make it for her. When I left I said good night to her and told her to stay out of trouble. Here is the thing though - she is like 15 years younger than me. I am not sure she realizes how old I am. I dont look my age because I am fit and trim and have no lines on my face. I easily pass for mid to late 30s (which I am not). I dont want to be the creep older guy that I read all the women complaining about but I hate to admit this... I have a FREAKING CRUSH on her! Its driving me crazy. I thought I was too old for this stuff. I feel like I was 12 again. Any advice?
max2go Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Are you married or in a relationship already? If not then if you like the woman, why not ask her out, a dates not asking her to marry you - enjoy yourself and if anything else follows...........take it from there.
lemonlegs Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I agree, just ask her out! She's definitely interested. Some girls just like older men, and that's all there is to it. As long as you're both consenting adults, age really doesn't matter. You're clearly both attracted to each other and get along well, so what's the problem here. Am I right?
Author tincanman99 Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 I am not involved with anyone nor married. So the cheating thing is not an issue. I have a very bad habit of over analyzing things like this. It leads to analysis paralysis. In the past I have gotten so freaked out that I disappear . I have become overly sensitive to people's perceptions especially about the creepy older guy .
seibert253 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 I'm in my mid 40's, but look at least 10years younger. Former competative powerlifter, but now more into bodybuilding. I personal train and teach group fitness as a part time gig at several gyms. Not to sound conceated, but I look much better than 90% of the dudes in my gyms. With that said, the younger girls are all over me, especially the college cuties. Some know my "real" age, but don't care. Maybe it's a dad complex, I don't know. Women dig the confidence that an older man gives them. We're grounded and established, not still finding our way as it seems alot of the college age guys are. I'm married and have never strayed, but it's been REAL hard to maintain my fidelity to my W. Bottom line is age is nothing but a number. If you two are into each other, I say go for it. Who gives a sh#t what other people think.
Cee Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Yeah, go for it. I was in a serious relationship with a man 16 years older and it was great. The only loss you face is not risking anything at all.
musemaj11 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 She probably saw your BMW when you parked in.
Author tincanman99 Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 She probably saw your BMW when you parked in. Actually I dont own a BMW, I own an Audi - I am kidding. Though I do have a 20 year old VW Golf, does that count ?
carhill Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 She's a personal trainer? Could be fishing for another client. Yep, color me cynical. I've experienced it a lot in my 51. In any event, asking her out on a real date will settle it... I personally wouldn't give the age component a second thought.
Jannah Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 So you're 45ish and she is 30ish, I don't see what the big whoopie is. Go for it!
Author tincanman99 Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 So you're 45ish and she is 30ish, I don't see what the big whoopie is. Go for it! So apparently I am over thinking it again ?
Author tincanman99 Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 She's a personal trainer? Could be fishing for another client. Yep, color me cynical. I've experienced it a lot in my 51. In any event, asking her out on a real date will settle it... I personally wouldn't give the age component a second thought. Yes she is a trainer and she knows I already have a trainer. And a woman trainer at that .
max2go Posted February 28, 2011 Posted February 28, 2011 So you're 45ish and she is 30ish, I don't see what the big whoopie is. .......only possible problem is that 30 in a woman is "help my biological clock's ticking"..........BABIES!!! and you are 45ish? A dates great - just watch for the broodiness:laugh:.............and dont get CAUGHT:bunny:
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