sweetbunnie Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Ok here is the story. I apologize in advance that this is going to be a very long novel lol. I just want to make sure that you have the whole story. I was on a dating online website. This guy emailed me and we exchanged numbers. Prior to meeting, we were texting a lot and having friendly bantar. It was not consistent, but consistent enough. I atleast heard from him everyday before our date. We even talked on the phone, had friendly conversation. Just trying to get to know one another. He was the one who took the intiative to finally suggest to go on a date. We were probably talking/texting for a week. I never initiated the texting, I always waited him to text me first. The date was amazing. We decided to meet at his house, don’t worry ladies, I can judge usually if the guy is crazy or not, and he was not. He gave me the option to meet at the place, at his office, or at his home. We decided on his home together, so it was nothing creepy or strange. When I was parking, I texted him I was there. He told me that he even moved his car out of his parking garage so I can park there. It was so sweet and such a nice gesture even before we met. When I was already walking to his house, he was waiting outside for me and I yelled smiling, "its too late I already parked on the street." When I saw him, I was just relieved that he looked like the handsome guy that his pictures displayed, and he was not mis-representing himself. He probably thought the same and we just both instantly gave each other a huge hug. He lead me into his house, which was insane. He had a very nice place and a very clean home. Extra points for him. He did a quick tour of his spot and then we got our jackets on and off we went. He was very very chivalrous. Opened doors, even brought out my seat, he was just a kind gentleman. We had laughs and listened to music, and we even shared dinner, because I was not that hungry. He suggested that we just share. He was very affectionate, not in a creepy way but a sweet way, holding hands and just cuddling next to me. It got to the point where I was leaning on him listening to the band, and he just planted a sweet kiss on me. It was great and welcoming. After the show, he grabbed my hand and we walked out of the place and back into the car. We went back to his house ( I know you girls are thinking uh ohhhhhhh), but it was not that kind of vibe of him trying to get into my pants. We hung out at his place a little more, he just gave me nice hugs, and we talked and listened to music and we cuddled on the couch. Kisses here and there, and he even kissed me on my hand and forehead a few times. We were just conversing in trying to get to know each other. It was getting late and he walked me to my car and said good night with a nice kiss. When I was leaving he never said he would call nor planned a second date, but since I had a positive feel on this date, I was pretty sure I was going to see him again. When I got home, he texted me to make sure I got home safely, and I said yes, thank you, and that I had an awesome time. He said he did too. Lol..post date DAY 1- no call or text…this was when I started to get anxious and worried, but I know better to wait a day or two before he calls. DAY 2- he calls :says his Monday was super busy, and he got sick. He sounded sick on the phone…..but he never mentioned wanting to see me. DAY 3- Mind you were are not even texting each other anymore after our date…just small texts…So I take the initiative to ask how is feeling via text, he said he needs a few more days. He put in his text he hopes he will be in “going-out” health by Monday, yet he never even sets up a date. DAY 4- I text him a question about problem I needed help on, he responded asap and told me he was going to doctor that day. I told him to get better fast. DAY 5- still early in the day not to hear from him, but I know I will not see him until after the weekend, due to him being sick, and him going to his brother’s place for a family gathering. Who even knows at this point if I will even get to see him again? This is driving me nuts!!!!! I used to be to the girl that constantly texts a guy, and open up quickly and tell them that I like them. But I am trying to have self control over my emotions, and my actions. I like the guy obviously a lot, but I don’t know how to read this. I want to tell him so bad I like him so much, but I don’t want to scare the guy. We only have been on one date. Yet I am not even sure if we are even going on a second date? Did he loose interest? I need advice asap, because I just don’t know what to do or how to analyze this. One step at a time?......or is he just really not that into me?
Mrlonelyone Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Well the cynical side of me says to forget him. The being sick is a lie because he does not want to be with you and is dating other people. So you should keep looking and dating other people. The hopeful side of me says that while you are keeping your options open keep trying to contact this guy. He'll either just ignore you or reciprocate your interest.
mtber75 Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Seems fine to me. He have a legit excuse. Plus he did respond back to your inquires. So I think your in good shape to get a 2nd date. Just ask him? That will impress a guy. Just shot him a quick text once a day. Don't overdo it!
carhill Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 Handsome man with extra clean house and wonderfully affectionate behavior does not ask woman out on another date as the first one ends at his home? Hmmm.... Something isn't adding up. My instinct is he is positioning you to chase him. He's a 'collector'. Let's see how I do... been wrong before
glimmer Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 He sounds legit. I think you'll hear from him again soon. Just try to relax, get busy doing other things. I think you should even go on a date with someone else. Don't let your world stop over one good date.
Author sweetbunnie Posted February 26, 2011 Author Posted February 26, 2011 Thanks...I dont know I am still up in the air. Honestly I dont want to contact him or text him because if he was that interested in, he will. I am tired of always chasing guys...so I am trying to take the healthy correct approach and let things happen. If he calls/texts great..if not, I guess on to the next one even though I would be so dissapointed.
Butterflying Posted February 26, 2011 Posted February 26, 2011 A similar thing happened to me with a guy I met online. We had a few good dates before finally going all the way with sex. Literally, the next day after sex, he stopped initiating all contact with me. Mind you, I waited about three days before sending at text message to which he responded immediately. And he responds to all text or contact I make to him. I waited an entire week without contacting him at all. On the eigth day, he sent a text message just checking to see if I was okay since he hadn't heard from me in a while. My advice is to stop initiating contact with him completely. Make yourself believe if this guy wants to be with you, he will contact you. He will ask you out. Definately keep dating other guys. Try to forget this guy. And don't be so quick to respond whenever he does finally contact you. Stay busy with other things. You already know you like him. Let him chase you. If he doesn't, then he's not worth your heart.
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