mcurrys07 Posted February 25, 2011 Posted February 25, 2011 Hi my name is matt and im 18 yrs old and a senior in highschool. I dated a girl for over a year and it was my first for everything that comes with a serious relationship as it was hers too. To some up what Happend between us before I ask for some adivce. In a nutshell we really hit it off and fell in love. We made the classic mistakes of being inexperianced such as spending every moment togather everyday and alienating our friends. We both where overly jealous and controlling etc. I was worse than she was in every categorie. Basicly the last couple months those inexpeianced mistakes caught up to us and tore us apart. She dumped me and I wanted to work at things. She then preceded to want space and not know what she wanted for 2 months. Throughout those two months I was walking on eggshells with her and we even had sex and hung out a couple times. She said things like " I love you but its not enough" or "I just don't know if I can give you another chance". We had plenty of moments where we really connected and said I love you to eachoher but yet she still didn't know. So this confusion killed me inside for about 2 months. About a month ago she called me to say that she made the desion that we aren't getting back together for the immediate future. She said " I just don't want to be with you anymore" or " I just don't want to try". So after our long and serious relatioship and after me coopareting and trying she couldn't even let me fix mistakes that could have been worked at. She still claims that she loves me. So here's where it gets interesting yesterday for the first time since the phone call I talked to her. We promised to eachtoher that we would be honest and open about anything so that we don't hear about stuff from other people. Well she called me to tell me that she hooked up with a younger guy who in my opion I though was gay but anyway they just hooked up and he left her in the dust not wanting a rleatioship. Next she tells me that she met another sophmore guy younger than her and they have been talking alot and he's clearly intersted in her. They havnt hung out yet and she admitted that she doesn't know what she wants.or were it will go. Obvsouly hearing that hurt alot but im more angry that this happned a month after we offically split not inculding the 2 months. Im feeling alot better now than I did in november but its only been since janurary that she made her desion so all of this still hurts. Now im a senior so im attending northeastern university in the fall so she will still be in highschool. I just need adivce and opnions on what Happend here. Just like to point out that she's a year younger so maturity might be an issue. I have questions like do I even bother dating when im going to school in 6 months? How do I move on from her?( she is my first love) and just overall opionis of what Happend. Sorry for the lenght! This is my first post. Any help is greatly appricated thanks!
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